I feel like Sally in the pumpkin patch......when the Great Pumpkin doesn't show. Why you may ask...and even if you don't I'm going to tell you. I was listening to a friend of mine yesterday recant the newest development in his dating life. It got me thinking about my own dating past, my friends' current and past dating experiences and I got indignant.
We were lied to, robbed, misled...by fairy tales.
I remember fondly listening to "Cinderella" and "Snow White." Little did I realize they were just a pack of lies. No where do they mention Cinderella or SW creating profiles on match.com and chemistry.com and every dating site in between (except eHarmony if you're gay, cause they don't like us). They don't mention Prince Charming Right Now. They don't mention meeting the man of your dreams only to find out that he has someone else...but it's a bit strained right now, so we can hang out, but as friends, until we end up making out, then we have to talk, and the conversation goes somewhere along the lines of "How can you be with him if you like making out with me...and why are you calling me from his house when you're supposed to be spending the weekend with him?" (True story). Cinderella and SW never got broken up via text message or heard the words, "Things are going too fast."
And what about "happily ever after?" Was there a whole portion of fine print afterwards with disclaimers? Something along the lines of "Happily ever after exists for today only. We make no guarantees about tomorrow. This relationship may prove to be less than what you hoped/expected." Happily ever after also doesn't go into all the work that happens in relationships...mainly because I am sure Prince Charmings are never passive aggressive or uncommunicative.
(Althought it should be mentioned that SW lived with a group of "trolls." So that was sorta true to life about dating...we all get stuck with a troll or two in our careers)
Music is fun again!!!!For the longest time, music was a real drag. There was nothing good coming out...maybe onesy/twosy songs, but nothing really stellar or noteworthy...especially no FULL ALBUMS.
So here are some recommendations:Leona Lewis - Spirit (Pop - Last year's winner of "UK Idol")
Schiller - Day & Night or Life (Ambient, "Chill" with guest vocalists such as Sarah Brightman)
Madonna - Hard Candy (Release 4/29, but the first single is awesome...and really...she can do no wrong in my book)
Paramore - Riot (Think Avril Lavigne only better)
Danity Kane - Welcome to the Doll House (Strippers with talent...really good pop CD)
Mariah Carey - E=MC2 (I can't speak too much about this one since I'm just getting into it...but so far...so good)
Work annoyance...I think I need a vacation...why...because I am getting very snarky in my emails lately. In the fast-paced environment that we are in, I am losing patience with people who ask stupid questions or don't think.
Here's the best example: You are having a meeting that you need (not want, but have to have) my participation at, but you schedule it during a time I'm not available...nor does it seem you even bothered to look at my calendar and you certainly did not ask me if the time was a good one. He also hasn't responded to my emails asking to change the time.
OK...that's it for now...
Laterz...
Comments (7)
life is no fairytale,, huh? blah..
ha.. but i've known that for some time now.
Thanks for stopping by my page, A Fine Frenzy is one of my favorite things
to listen to right now, but I am going to check out your music recomendations..
i love finding new artist, or at least new to me.
have a great weekend mate.
*~matthew~*
i like ur music recs.
lol danity kane's damaged is my current guilty indulgence of the week.
and i find mariah carey's new song to be hilarious, especially whenever she goes
"I will hunt you down"
The beginning part of that post is so true. I think you can even go down to how commercials are "buy this and get the boy" and realize how much you've been sold into the "happily ever after" idea since birth.
I love Paramore and Danity Kane, definitely a guilty pleasure.
haha...that whole dating thing is exactly what I am not looking for anybody. I just don't see the point in spending time trying to find somebody to be with when I'm much happier making my own decision on my own terms without having to worry about if what I want to do conflicts with what they want to do...I mean, the only thing I need in the end is Christ, and that's all I need to be happy...none of this stupid dating stuff for me, thanks. lol
And I know what you mean about music...there's been nothing that I've liked so far, although I really like that "keep bleeding" song...I want to hear more from leona before I make a final decision on her.
A very thought-provoking post, indeed. Of course, we didn't have text messaging back when I last dated. You just got pushed out of the stagecoach.
We know a couple who has been together for over 30 years - and one is still looking for the fairy tale. He sighs and laments that he misses being in love - in a very tragic and somewhat squalidly operatic way.
And while I confess to having been a victim of the Cinderella syndrome myself - on MANY occasions - what I've come to learn is that "happily ever after" generally requires negotiation. And patience. And hard work. It may look easy to some, but there is a lot of work behind it.
I want to shake the bitter old queen and say "Look - look at what you have! A man who would give his life for you - who has put up with your old drama queen kabuki bullsh*t for more than 30 years - a home that he allows you to decorate so it looks like someone just threw up a French bordello - friends and family who love you - and ..."
and then I'd have to hit him.
You make the fantasy - you don't find it on the curb like an old sofa. Or a young attractive man crying in a doorway in the Castro at 3 am - oh wait - wrong story...
Life would be a lot easier if we were all forced to wear food warning labels - except ours would be "Amount of Daily Damage per Serving." Then we'd at least be able to shop around. Or at least be more informed consumers.
Carry on.
P.S. Digging the Schiller CD - thanks!! But you know I'm a sad whore for Sarah.
Truth is, Prince Charming chased, dated, married & ran-out on Snow, Cindy, and Aurora (aka Sleeping Beauty). He's the original "playa" and can't stay in any one relationship for long. But so far he's doin' pretty good as Mayor of Fabletown. (Look up "Fables", you'd enjoy it.)