All 4 One...The show is going so well...but there is so much to do. We've been rehearsing roughly 4 nights per week. Last Monday night, I had a "first" experience. In addition to the songs associated with my lead-role, I (and all the principals) was asked to learn and practice the chorus numbers. Everyone then went into a recording studio and laid down the tracks to play. This way, the chorus gets the benefit of the leads helping to fill out the sound, AND the theatre company doesn't have to incur the costs of mic-ing everyone. I and the rest of the leads will still sing live. It was a great experience to be in a recording studio and the background CDs sound great.
We're at the point now where the cast is exploring the nuances of their characters and the show is really starting to fill out.
If you're in NY and so inclined:
The U.S. Premiere of the New
Three Musketeers Musical
- ALL 4 ONE -
will be performed on
Saturday May 31st & Sunday June 1st
at UPAC in Kingston at 601 Broadway.
The stories of the 3 Musketeers
will be brought to you as a Musical
with an exciting new score and adventure -
complete with sword fighting, love,
intrigue and suspense.
Tickets are available through Ticketmaster!!
I'm just an old-fashioned girl...So on Sat., myself, E!, C&P, Captain Fantasticus (new friend who shall be blogged about later) and Random Guest 1, met at the premiere str8 bar in the Hudson Valley to say goodbye to one of my closest friends, May and his wife Jolly. May and I met...damn....had to be more than 5 years ago. I flirted with him at a coop event for my company.
We would then run into one another a few years later at one of my shows.
He turned out to be str8, and we turned out to have a wonderful friendship with an amazing amount of things not in common...LOL...We had a lot in common...but it was our things that weren't in common, I enjoyed the most and gave us the most to talk about and share. We were both single at the same time, so we afforded one another a lot of companionship. That friendship has continued on, through moves and marriage and now, his wife just got a job in DC, so that's where they headed.
I wish them well, and I'm putting on a brave face about the whole thing...but the fact of the matter is, I just don't do well with relationships of any distance (that started out physically close). As much as technology is fun and enables the sharing of info...it's not the same. Most of my relationships that begin as "real-world" ones, don't last when the majority of time is spent online.
We won't have our weekly coffees, or our random lunches, or bumping into one another. And then, I'll just get replaced. Now, many of you may say that's silly. "You can't be replaced." "You'll always mean the same to him."
I was just reading C's (of C&P) blog for this morning. In it he shared that his worst fear is being alone. My worst fear is being replaced. Fears don't have to make sense and they don't have to be rational...so that's mine.
The funny thing is that I know May has a similar fear...and even watched him go through something similar...so maybe it won't happen. But in this world of passive friendships based on Facebook and Twitter...well...let's just say...we'll see.
Passive and Active and all in between...So I mention passive friendships above. These are friendships that are maintained solely through things like Facebook & Twitter. It allows people to feel a connection to one another without putting in any effort. In days past, you had to call people or even send an email to find out what's going on...you needed to have an interaction. These days, communication is one way, waiting to be digested. Is that a friendship?
I look at blogs as that space in between...I'm putting my thoughts, ideas, stories down...you have to digest it, and comment...and then you share something similar and I do the same. The interaction isn't exactly the same as an active friendship...but the difference is that on Facebook & Twitter, the information here is substantive. In those other mediums, it's a line...or a status...It feels somehow lacking to me. It's why I just can't seem to spend too much time in either of those mediums...and prefer to just put more thought into my blog.
Funny enough, May and I have talked about the ad nauseum. I'm an extrovert by nature...which in strictest definition means that I get my energy from groups of people (I love parties full of strangers...it's my drug)...Facebook & Twitter can't provide me that energy...and so I have a harder time getting any value out of them.
OK - I have more thoughts...but for now - I have to go run a meeting.
Laterz...
Comments (7)
i'm probably the opposite of you in that i'm an invtrovert that has a hard time keeping friendships on the physical plane due to distance and obligations [parental, musical, and otherwise] it's nice to read that youre moving and shaking and making a name for yourself up there in the lovely hudson valley....and to find that you're on the twitter too! i'm at http://www.twitter.com/sean808080 send me a tweet!
Wish I could go see the show. We recorded a cd for the Gay Men's Chorus of Houston, and the recording session was absurd. I think we stayed for about 3-4 hours recording about a handful songs, and the people recording us were extreme perfectionists.
As for fear of being replaced? I can relate.
I've never even heard of Twitter, but I'll check it out. I know Myspace and Facebook are my main online social networking sites. I keep them mainly for two reasons. 1. to keep in contact with a lot of my friends from different places I lived 2. people watching lol
I hate it when good friends, best friends, move away. Replaced? Sort of, maybe, but never the same. I miss my close friends, blogged about that a while back. I miss my close friends that are even relatively close when I only get to see them on infrequent occasion. Life gets too damn busy. Blogging has helped me a lot to replace some of the empty time, which can be unhealthy for me with the Internet temptations. Facebook, for me, is an extension of Xanga. The substance for me is on Xanga. but I like to share in my Xanga friends lives through Facebook. I've actually limited my Facebook to people met online pretty much through Xanga. I don't need all the additional superficial stuff from people that live nearby. Maybe if I was still in college or my 20's. Now, I'd much rather meet for coffee or whatever. Problem is that time is limited.
Hey, I used to live in Hyde Park for about a year (my dad worked in Poughkeepsie until the plant he was managing closed). Haven't been back since the late 80's. Some pleasant memories are there since I turned my life around while living there.
I've never been one of those people who were lucky enough to maintain a friendship from a distance. Time apart just makes the connection weaker for me, I think. But thank you for putting into words for me the way I feel about thinks like Facebook and, in my case, Myspace. I found an old friend on there whom I had not spoken to in 2 years because he had moved out of the area. We spent a couple of hours on the phone catching up...and that's been it.
I have a lot of effortless friendships. I also have a lot of effort-consuming friendships that take entirely too much work, but they're needed and worthwhile.
Hey, I know the fear all too well. It's true that once there is a physical distance between you and your friends, things start to happen and you start to drift apart. I know with some friends I used to have that were like my family, once I moved, the line of communication ended. I see them on facebook, and they're nothing like I remember. Not the kind of friends one wants, anyway.
But if you and May actually have a relationship, I'm sure you won't be replaced. Things will change, absolutely, but I wouldn't stress or worry too much about it. It won't do you any good. Just enjoy what you can while you can, you know?