Thursday, April 10, 2008
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Starbucks squatter
So I went with my parents to FEU-NRFM to drop off my brother for his summer duty, which is after his summer classes. Yep he's a busy busy boy, in summer. I love these night drives, it brings up nice memories. So anyway, we decided to order some Starbucks since it was like adjacent to the school/hospital. I was really hesistant to come in, since I was clad up with house clothes-- a t-shirt with some holes in it, which you can only see from a close distance, and my school's Physical education shorts, and flip-flops (mas pinasosyal na term para sa tsinelas). I asked my mom to go with me so that at least that even if I was dressed as a house boy, my mom, who was dressed up in more appropriate clothing, would be sort of my deflection of people's judgement that Im not completely... umm "squattery". She said no though, since my dad was parked at a particularly scary place and so my mom had to be with her. So I breathed deeply and started walking to that upper-class cafe dressed only for a night out to a pharmacy, preparing myself for minutes of me being self concious. I told myself I shant show any signs of insecurities, since most rich people see that the most, and their primary entertainment for eyeing down on people (not generalizing here though--only the judgemental ones), believe me I know. I do it sometimes when I am really frustrated, though we'er not rich (give me a break! that's my only psychological ammunition! I dont do it anymore though... Its bad).
I was really expecting people to be a total bitch to me that I was dressed that way, but I guess I was wrong. The guard greeted me, the baristas smiled and said "sir". The costumers though were looking at me, which probably because of what I wear. But I dont know, for the first time, I wasn't insecure, as juxtaposed with before that even if I had nice clothing on I was still self-concious when going into upper class joints alone like Starbucks. I told myself, sincerely and not as a telling-myself-empowerment thing, that greatness will not be dictated through clothing, and which I realized that only as I've said it, and how you carry yourself, with that ceratin confidence of knowledge of one's self that matters. I should not let people's judgement overcome me right?---since I know better than that. People see through confidence, and appreciate it more.
Sorry if I am a little like a self-help book right now, just wanted to share.
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That brings up a good point. I don't like going out without presentable clothing either. I'll go out with anything other than 'bumming around' clothes, but I have before. At first you wonder if anyone will look, or care, but if they look, who's to say that it's because of one's clothing, right? It is about how you carry yourself. If you are confident, then that's all that matters. I understand how that must have felt. I'm just glad I don't like Starbucks. Ha. Brave soul, you are.
@WiseOrFool - yeah there are lts of good dressing people who turn out to be complete airheads. haha i am also starting to doubt myself if ever I really like starbucks, or i just go to it for mere status, since it has become quite a status symbol in our country.
@Ardenlabroasuncion - Where do you live, if you don't mind me asking? Starbucks seems overrated to me, then again, I don't drink coffee.
@WiseOrFool - nope nope, I dont mind. I live in the Philippines, where the effect of colonialism can still be felt, after the parade of invasions. So I guess that's why Starbucks here seems such a pretty big deal.
hindi ka naman mukang squatter nun no. walang squatter ang nakakapunta sa starbucks para bumili ng frappe or anything. haha!
haha, pero siyempre sa mata ng ibang "richie rich", pag pangit suot mo, poor ka. haha totoo naman di ba??
Same here, I NEVER go out unless I'm in proper uniform, este, proper attire pala, haha. Even my pambahay should look really presentable. I guess I'm such a conscious person, hahaay.
Yes, indeed. It's not with how you dress but with how you carry yourself in a certain attire that marks people of who you really are. But then again, sadly, we have to admit that in this time and age, in a world that is a slave of appearances, there really are certain people who would judge you based on how you dress because that's their first impression of who you are. Maybe that's the reason why people nowadays tend to really spend a lot of time to dress in the best possible way...because they want people to think of them in a positive and admiring way.
@dessa_pinkangel - yep, thats something we cant change, and something we are both guilty of :) hehe. Hehe, thats the only way, and nevertheless easiest one, to judge people whom we dont know of.
But you know, I am okay with this superficial trend. :)
@Ardenlabroasuncion - Yes, I'm really guilty of this in a sense na I want people to think of me in a positive and admiring way because of how I dress and carry myself pero, I'm not the type who judges people based on their outer appearances, kaya nga asar friends ko minsan kasi kj ako pagjinujudge nila ang ibang tao. haha! It's a principle I want to stay with me pero I THINK i'm slowly going with stereotyping na, hahaay. Friends tlga, influential, lol.
And yeah, I'm okay with this trend, I mean, we're getting used to it anyway, it's not really a negative thing naman though sa iba, it is downright mean, lol.
@dessa_pinkangel - haha, that's girl world. :)