Sunday, July 20, 2008
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How would you accept rejection from the person you love?
Maybe it's just my currently shitty mood, but I loathe this question. A lot. First of all, it's depressing--nobody likes rejection. Second of all, we (that is, you and I) need consider the implications of the word accept. I do believe that the question is meant to ask how one would handle rejection from someone that he/she loves; however, the question has already prompted a direction for your answer. Essentially, it presupposes your response, through the use of "accept."
So, here's the scenario...someone you love rejects you. It's a little vague. You don't know how, or why, or what the circumstances are. Your boyfriend (or girlfriend) simply walks up to you and says, "I reject you!" And you, naturally, accept this statement. How? Goodness knows. Do you smile politely and reply, "I accept your rejection! Have a nice day!" Do you merely comment on the articulateness of this rejection, pleasantly musing that there is nothing you need to say, or do, since you've come to terms with this rejection in a span of three seconds (that's the estimated time it takes for someone to profess his/her rejection of you, btw).
I can't help but wonder at the nature of the supposed rejection that I just have to accept. Does my best friend not want to get coffee today? Is that a rejection? Did my mother decide that she doesn't want to help me with my hair? Is that rejection? Or, simply, has the guy I like just decided that he'd like to see other people? And I'm just supposed to accept that?
Somehow, I think not.
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Comments (16)
Haha! Awesome take on the subject, I didn't think about disecting the question itself.
I'm going to use the line "I reject you!", the next time someone wants to do something with me.
loved this and also am going to reject a rejector next time i don't want to be rejected... i'm guilty of writing the "i would be devastated" post... of course there's still the "hiring a hit man" idea - it would work for rejection too...
Hahahaha I <3 you!
Wonderful point. ^_^ You have some excellent insight.
Anyways, who cares about featured questions? They always pick the worst ones.
Dumbest question ever. I do not accept rejection. I usually "handle" it by telling them to go fuck themselves. I don't always use those exact words though.
You do have a point.
"I reject you! And worse, I fart in your general direction!"
Monty Python would've had a field day with this question.
This question hits way too close to home right now for me to answer anytime soon >.<
However your answer did make me laugh =)
Hey girl - thanks for your note the other day. I'm doing better - much more human-like! As to this blog, very true, as with all your critiques of the Featured Questions! And from what I've seen of life, I certainly don't 'accept' rejection - you heal, you move on, you try again, but even then, you still don't have to 'accept' it. And rejection is usually not so blatant either, like you say, a three second transaction.
Thats a very good point and one, i must admit, that i hadn't considered.
Do you think acceptance comes further down the line, once you have hurt and healed?
ask me again after I've reached the bottom of the bottle of Maker's Mark...
Yes...perfect.
I think I personally end up loathing almost all featured questions... but I do agree this one is especially loathsome.
I suggest that if you are sufficiently assured of your worth and that the rejection was undeserved, then you could accept it as a demonstration that he was lacking in his appreciation and understanding of you or something along those lines. You could accept it by turning it back against him as an indication of his unworthiness.