| So a friend of mine called me the other day and asked me a random question.
"Quan" she said "What do you think about giving guys a second chance?"
Well...
It's ironic that you ask me that question
Cuz that's a subject that has remained on my mind for quite awhile now
Giving someone a second chance varies so much from situation to situation cuz there are different variables to consider
1st and foremost if someone has DEEPLY hurt you
You shouldn't look at the matter as them DESERVING a second chance
Personally I don't think the deserve shit from you
Giving them a second chance should be seen as a "gift"
2nd it depends on how much you cared for that person
The more you cared, the more personally you take whatever they did to you
And the more it hurts
3rd depends on wat kind of second chance that you're talking about
Giving a person a second chance in friendship is soo much more easier
You'd need to be able to confront what they did to you
You need to be able to get through it
Overcome it
And most importantly... FORGIVE
It's easier to restart a friendship that way
In terms of a relationship or "messing" with the person again
WOW..... it's gonna take a whole lot of forgiveness
He has to demonstrate that he's truly sorry for what he did to you
Admit that he was wrong
He needs to be remorseful for hurting you
He has to want to chance for the better
And should be changing for the better
And he should be able to prove himself to you
You have to be able to trust him again
And you have to take the risk of putting yourself out there again
4th is he worth taking a risk on again?
Determining whether or not he's worth it is sumthing that others can't tell you
No one knows the situation or him the way you do
Finalmente my friend
You can always use the objective guidelines to figure out whether or not "he" should get a second chance
But when it comes to matters of the heart
It's hard to remain objective
So my advise to you would be to listen to what your heart is telling you
And follow your heart....
~^**Simple things are what my heart beats for**^~ |
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| blahhhhh
im bored out of my mind. im officially done with school until september. kinda happy kinda sad. i need/want a full time job. my boss at NU hasn't said if I can stay here for the summer, I think I can but just not as many hours soooo I'm gonna need another part time job. I have city hall but I dont really want to stay there. I'm waiting to hear back from a few other places so we'll see how that goessssss.
i'm excited for tomorrow and next sat. heheehe =] |
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| i'm thinkin...so much on my mind that i cant recline!
[[[breathe in]]]
inhale vapors from bright stars that shine |
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| these ups and downs are totally killing me but im lovin this weather and my friends =) |
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| there is someone that i want so much to be near to. his company is comforting and makes me feel safe and not the least bit alone. my desire to be near him is so strong but i cant bring myself to let him know. laying next to him makes me tense with anticipation. anticipation for his kiss, for his touch, for his words... but where is it all? almost non-existent!
i want to tell him! i really do... but how can i go about that telling him? everytime i think about him i smile. and i wonder what could be and what i want to be. when i see him in pain, i feel that very pain he feels. seeing him sad or distraught makes me want to cry because no matter how badly i want to fix it all for him, i know i cant. i feel teased when he leans in so closely to my face because i want him to just hold me close and everytime i leave his side only to return to my room i tell myself how stupid i am! what have i got to lose? i should just tell him how i feel right? i should just march right up to him and grab him up, kiss him and tell him i want nothing more than to lie in his arms all night.
maybe next time...
^ props to tasha, shes amazing =) |
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