Hey Bangas,

How is everyone this Labor Day weekend.  For those celebrating the holiday as a break from work and are about to party have fun and don't do anything I wouldn't do.  For those of you celebrating the holiday in "Labor" I am so sorry, but will save you a hotdog.

I know has been awhile but doesn't seem like this harlem lady life as been one that is much worth writing about.  The kids are all doing well.  Oldest girl got a job down on Wall Street, pretty proud of that.  The two teens were working this summer, way glad of that, can save my school clothes money.  The youngest as been enjoying the summer and hanging with mom (oh joy).  If I had heard I am bored one more time I swear I was gonna hit him with one. 

School starts back on tuesday, prayers have been answered.  Empty house from 9 to 3, unless I can talk them into after school activities and get it from Monday 9am to Friday 5pm.  Aww, Sheila you will miss them you might say, and since you haven't meant them, I will let the sarcasm have the day off..lol.  Maybe i will miss them a little bit, but I adjust very quickly.  Gimmie a remote and being able to walk into the kitchen to make breakfast for one instead of my 4 and whatever godkids decide to wander by, and I will get over it toot sweet. 

My son has been trying to become the next Vince Carter, he is usually in the park from the time he gets off work till the time they close up the park and then he fines another one.  I usually spend the evening hunting parks for him, seeing as telling time is not one of his strong points, you figure the darkness would be a hint, but nah.  Think he needs his eyes tested.  The other night he strolled in around midnight and I said, where the hell were you, in a low NYC tone.  My curfew is not until 11:30, ok so I show him the clock reading five to 12. Oh well I left at 11:30.  Oh I see it is make mommy stupid night, seeing as he thought an 11:30 curfew meant leave wherever you are at 11 30 and make it home when you get there.  Umm, no Einstein it means be knocking on the door at 11:25 cause it takes a minute to wait for a commerical to let you in, and if you gotta pee make sure you passed a tree or 2, if you have too number 2, gas station on corner...lol.  But be in by 11:30.

Skank update:  Well when nephew was taken back to jail, no he did nothing wrong, just when he was in before for he sort of left with thought permission, "guess when the guards said back to your beds he thought they meant his bed here."  Before then though he was doing real good, had a job, stopped smoking and was trying to get his son back.  Well since the day he left we have not seen hide nor hair of her, so I am not sure what is up with the baby.  As far as her, she was in a shelter supposing to get her chit together but as soon as he went away she left, so I guess she said to hell with the baby and the twins.  She was pregnant again, I don't know what happen to that baby.  Was supposed to be another niece or nephew, but was not claiming until DNA said which way was up.  Heard someone had seen her and she was back to her old ways, well hell she had never left them but she is not hiding them anymore so I heard.  Guess it is not just old dogs you can't teach new tricks.....some of the young ones are kinda slow too.

The block update:   Would say still the same but they are building up all over everywhere, If I stay inside for a week I swear I will be lost if I go back outside again.  Afraid to stand out front for fear someone will build a building on me.  The people are just about the same just we have alot of newcomers.  Not sure i am fond of the change but what are you gonna do, you can't stay in a rut forever I guess.  Just remembering the days when the candy store was across the street and the after hours spot that was made from old boards and painted concrete wall, that were the neighboring buildings, held a few tables a homemade bar and a pool table, and all the old school people hung out there drinking and dancing, was fun to watch...nothing more fun that watching drunk 70 year olds determined to bring back the charleston or the lindy.

The dealers are not around as much but there are a few that are a source of entertainment.  My youngest girl is a Law and Order fan.  She always ask me am I watching the show, told her I don't have to, when I have it outside my window, ie entertainment....

See the female officer on the young boy, if she had of searched for drugs any harder in his crotch region, she would have needed a handi wipe.  As I watched I was like damn, is she looking for drugs or getting him off.  Said it a little to load so this was my last picture, officer asked me if I can refrain from taking pictures and leave my window, first thing I could think to say, is do you know how much porn is to rent and I can see it here for free.  He said this is all procedure, I am sure it is, she looks to have proceeded to get her jollies, but just the way I look at it cause I am wondering just how big this young boy is it took you like 3 minutes to look, exactly where could he have hid anything, honestly wanted to ask her if she wanted a cigarette after she was done. 

But other than the renovation, and the New York City (trying to get) Undercover(s) Cops there has not been much happening for this harlem lady.   

All in the life of the Harlem_Lady is cool.  I hope that it is going well for all you too.  I wanna thank some of yall for the I miss you's, I miss you guys too.  When all settles and the kids are back in school, maybe I can go find a life, if any of you have an interesting one to spare by all means do share..lol

Love you to all you bangas, see ya again soon

Hey xanga-holics

I hope the day is going good so far for you all.  As for me here in NYC, it is hot  .  Don't get me wrong if it was 20 degrees I would be whining but I like for it to stick to the 60's and breezy. 

I went past the park today and it is charcoal smell all around, I am not sure smokey the bear would be happy, but I know Yogi would be having a field day with the pickanick baskets, (yea I can spell..lol) I ran into a couple of people I knew, and it was free food.  I have to cook tonight, however I was thinking about bringing the kids out to the park with a couple plates and some silverware, in their "MOMMY DON'T FEED ME" t-shirts.  Oh wait there is my mom, I guess her "FEED A SENIOR" t-shirt would work.  I am so glad she does not even know how to cut a computer on, much less be able to read this site.

I posted a while back that my cat was having kittens, well she had 2 but unfortunately those passed on , after about a weeks time, they were so small.  However, about 3 weeks ago she had another litter of 6.  Yea, Yea I know get her fixed, well I try, but she always knocked up, reminds me of a cousin of mines..lol jk.  Well she has 6 and they are the cutest things, I am finding homes for them all however they will be here another month or so, and I wanted to name them instead of going,  hey you!  So I wanted to call upon you all to help me name them, I will post pictures of them soon as I can get them all together.

OK, I got a xanga question or two.  First question, I tried this new xanga themes thing and it was kinda cute but I thought I could go back to my look and feels page and change it back to my gorgeous guys, but now I can not find my look and feels part on my site.  So question is, Does anyone know how I can find look and feels again, so I can go back to making the pages on my own?   Ok next thing, I saw up here something that says pulse, well it said I had no pulse, and I am wondering should I be worried?  I know here if you have no pulse, that is kind of a bad sign.  I woke up feeling fine this morning and to find that I have no pulse is just a weeeee bit disturbing, so if anyone out there knows CPR or anything to that nature I would appreciate a jump start here....lol.

It is almost time for school to let out here, I am sure it has let out already in quite a few places, is anyone as depressed as I am?  I mean I love my kids, but I swear I wish I would have read the fine print when I had them.  They always tell you how much it costs to raise a child, including college and such, the price is skyrocketing, but I really think most of that money is the price of therapy that you have to endure during or because of raising them.  For instance, once they are all grown and gone, you have to deprogram yourself from cutting other people food into cubes.  You have to understand that your hubby/bf whatever does not want their beer or whatever served in a sippy cup.  When you are driving along and have to brake real quick and you throw that protective arm over, that there is no one there.  You have to realize at 12am and you look out the window and your car is gone, one of the kids do not have it, it has been stolen, so if you live in Arizona, don't call California and ask you son, where did he park the car.  Also you now have no one to tell those, "when I was your age" stories because they all should be your age by now. 

But on the lighter side you are now able to walk around your house anyway you please, however if you are like me, have some sympathy for your neighbors, or they will not be for long.  Invest in mini blinds, shades, thick curtains, and also remember silohettes do not lie.  So for you women if you look like you have an extra set of knees cause gravity have not been kind, remember cast no shadows.  Also, you get to cook what you want, no more, hot dogs and beans, 5 nights out of the week, unless that is just your thing.  You can go out to dinner and not have the waitress hand you the check and directions to the McDonald's drive thru way across town when there is one across the street.  You can have company over without the pitter patter of feet and whispering from the stairs or what they think is whispers going "DO YOU THINK THAT IS HER REAL HAIR OR A WIG".  You get to sleep late, no big yellow bus, or early morning drives to school.  Nope none of that, they are out the house all squared away, therapy is going good, you are back at 99.9% and you get that phone call.  "Hello mom, I am pregnant, or you daughter in law is pregnant" and so you remove the mini blinds, take down the curtains, stock up on spaghetti o's and peanut butter and jelly and try to find the park again.  You don't even save for therapy now, just hope that the home you go to in your older age has a good shrink on staff and medicare is good to you...lol. 

Yea , you know I am just kidding , I would not change one bit of any this, just as I know none of you would.

Well bangas I have gabbed enough, so again enjoy the rest of the holiday....and if you see my kids passing through  be kind, oh and they greedy so be warned.

Huggsss Sheila

***Edit...Once I posted my guys and music were back, so I don't know what is going on, but Yeah!!!!!!!