Saturday, June 28, 2008
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If you have given or received a marriage proposal, will you share the story?
I have been proposed to once and I have proposed once.
The two guys in question were definitely not the ones for me; the first I knew when he asked me and the second took me about 2 years after me asking to realise.
Guy 1: I was at University still, second year. I was dating a guy I had met in my first year and unfortunately he became very sick. He'd had a heart transplant when he was 15 and (as is the risk for many transplant patients) developed cancer which had grown into a large football sized tumor in his abdomen. I stuck with him throughout his treatment and sometime aftter his recovery and he asked me to marry him and move back with him to Sheffield. I knew for me it was really the wrong thing to do. I don't know what made me think that, but I guess something just didn't feel right. I asked for some time to think because I didn't want to string him along and in the end I ended the relationship.
Guy 2: In the time I've kept this blog, I have written about this guy as I was living with him for several years. I proposed to him on Leap Day 4 years ago because it was what I thought I wanted. I did want to get married, just I realised some time later he just wasn't the right person to get married to.
It was probably one of the hardest things to do and I think I asked him at about 2 minutes to midnight of the Leap Day. I was cutting it fine ... maybe because deep down I knew already that he wasn't the one? :P I even got a ring for him and I cooked a nice meal and the whole time I just couldn't ask. I hid the ring under the pillow and couldn't being myself to ask until we were about to sleep. I think he couldn't believe I'd asked and his feelings were mixed about it - as if he'd wanted to ask (although I was pretty sure he never would).
Now I'm in a new relationship and although I know I'd marry him in a heartbeat, I'm not going to rush things along. I've tried the whole proposing thing and after realising how hard it was I have great respect for guys proposing. It ain't easy :)
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Comments (6)
nice! i never thought about the "hardness" bit of proposing (i'm too young to marry)..wow..
I've proposed a couple times.
Just a stupid kid who jumped the gun though.
But I performed a wedding once.
Thanks for subscribing!
I find it kinda funny that about 90% of my readers and subscribers are women. Why couldn't I have been this popular with the ladies in High school?
Awww, you proposed on the same day I did! Except I went to the seaside and had it planned down to the finest details. We celebrated with Bailey's Latte in a seaside cafe and played with our pennies in the arcade. The Guy 1 situation must have been incredibly hard, after going through everything with him.
RYC: Well, you're the second person to request seeing them in action.
I had vids of last year's show posted on my Photobucket account, but took them down to shore up space.
Since people want to see them, I'll try to post them again tonight and provide the link tomorrow.
It takes alot of corage to 1.) Turn down a proposal 2.) To propose 3.) To end an engagement.
I admire your courage. Good luck with your new relationship.
Stacie.
Ok, i've posted a link to some video of last years 4th.
Enjoy! And maybe I'll have some of this year's by the weekend.