Thursday, May 08, 2008
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We broke up the same day he asked me out
It was a frosty November afternoon in 2005. He brought me to a small park by the pond asked me to be his girlfriend. Before I could even reply, he told me that he will not stay in the country after his graduation and a long distance relationship will not be an option.
Essentially he was breaking up with me six months in advance.
I told him to shut up and kiss me because at that time nothing else mattered. We've known each other for less than two weeks and he was wasting time worrying about something half a year away.
Our friends thought we were insane asking for an inevitable heartbreak like that. But there was something very beautiful about a relationship constrained by time. It was very…romantic. Melodramatically romantic.
I never regretted my decision to be with him. He constantly told me how much he liked me, but never said he loved me. If he did, I told him that I would break up with him. But I don’t think he ever did.
As May approached, I was dreading the inevitable. For reasons beyond my comprehension, he didn’t want to end it on the day he left. I suggested that we should let it happen “naturally” - we would break up on the first day it rained after his graduation. He laughed and told me I was being a drama queen again.
Not only did it rain, it flooded. Rain poured down for the next week and a half.
After that, he untagged all our pictures together and un-friended me on Facebook, blocked me from AIM, and cut off any and all contact with me. It was as if I never existed in his life. Even to this day, he does not reply to any of my friendly “How are you?” message inquiries. The last time I saw him was two years ago when he came back to Boston for a visit. He did not contact me; we bumped into each other over an awkward 10 minute meeting.
Today is his birthday. And it’s raining in Boston.
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Comments (64)
that's life
hmm
Wow he was pretty harsh on blocking you from everything... :( Well cheer up! Maybe you guys will run into each other again :]
aww that's sad but beautiful. something like that happened to me too, except i was the one that hardcore blocked him.
not keeping contact with exes is the best way to go.
Maybe he did secretly love you. Because if he didn't, it wouldn't matter to him whether or not your name still existed on his Facebook, AIM, and other sources of contact. Sometimes, when we love someone, the only way to forget them is to erase them completely.
Good grief. This is all too much of a Korean drama :P
if heartache pain is felt from those six months, then it was well worth it...
his wiping out of all trace of you is a bit weird, i must say...
however, you can wish me a happy birthday
*tear*
beautiful story. *hugs*
EPIC.
he preached "ignorance is a bliss" mentality. apparently it helps sooth logical guys.
nevertheless, great life experience :)
This is totally movie material...did he ever give a reason for being so cold? Or is that just how he deals and is nothing personal? If I were in your shoes though I wouldn't help but take offense.
oh what the fuck. this was so long ago, and probably not as beautiful as you try to write it to be. you're giving ben and yourself too much credit lol.
anyhoo, i'm in a very similar situation right now... actually not just the situation, but the circumstances leading to everything... so after all that hatin', i understand.
This is such a romantic and sad story at the same time....
asshole.
booo.
=(
Wow. That is unbelievable. This should be made into a play, or movie...something.
@z3nger - I have to agree here. What reason did he have to suddenly cut off all connections? All connections completely? If you really liked someone, wouldn't you be satisfied with whatever you can get? Oh well. =/ There must be more to the story.
But this story did hit the spot. :) Very nicely written.
oh life. you write painfully well karen.
stories like this give me hope. there's love, even though the ending is beautifully sad.
I bet that kind of behavior drives a girl nuts ..
so sad. A beautiful story that would work well in a movie or an episode of a TV show or anime. But it feels incomplete to me.
@Vitamin_D - This was my sentiment at first too. I dunno though. There's not enough information given about the male lead's thoughts to say whether he's an asshole or just irrational...