Sunday, June 20, 2004

  • Hello, Fellow Xangan...

    S

    aturday was a first for me. Over the summer, my school offers several "inaugurations" for incoming freshmen. It's basically a fancy orientation. The freshmen stay in a dorm for three days, enjoy dorm food, and register for Fall classes. Another thing they do is take placement exams and I am in charge of Japanese this summer.

    Today was the first day of the second inauguration and I had five students take the exam. The last person to hand in her paper, walked into my office and I looked at her exam. She did quite well, actually. Quite impressive as a matter of fact. I told her that she could probably enter any of the advanced courses, and asked her where she had learned her Japanese. Well, after high school, she studied at a university in Nagoya before entering an American university. I was surprised because she gone to a university that many of our students go to. And she tole me she knew imahima. I looked at her information and saw her e-mail address: endersatomi. Hmmm... why does that sound familiar... I was desparately recalling and discounting in order any and all conceivably embarrassing, damaging or career-ending situations (haha, just kidding), when it hit me. I looked at her and said: "Xanga!" She looked at me and said, "Onigiriman?" Hahahaha. What a moment. She said she had heard of me from my other students, so I suspect she kinda new who I'd be, but I was caught totally off guard.

    On the train ride home, I found myself lost in thought, imaging what it would be like cruising the country and "bumping" into people I know. I'd probably have to recruit a partner in crime like Vlade, and we'd leave LA and first go up north to the Monterey peninsula to check out pair of intriguing lips and eyes, then to Vancouver to grab and shake a sexy shoulder from behind., We'd then head inland across the country to Chicago and scope out Orange and look for small aircraft flying in the wrong direction, all the while canvasing universities in Illinois looking for a hairy dog. Then maybe to NYC to find a sarcastic chick for a tongue lashing (I shudder at this thought) and a girl who walks her guinea pig. Then we'd head south to check out the campus of FSU to look for two squabbling sibblings who think they look cool as gangsters and an artist who paints his dog. Then to Atlanta to look for the screwiest JA in the south, then to Texas in search of a really cute coed who is a self-proclaimed tomboy... Then we'd head back to LA to check out my Bruin Xangers hanging out at UCLA. Whew, I figure it would take a month and a half. If you know the regular commenters on my site, you would know who I'm talking about. But this kind of time, I don't have, although Vlade seems to have the time to go rafting in speedos... hehehehe. You're on the air.

    SunJun: Here's my question: what is your greatest regret in life? As an instructor, is there's one basic concept you could manage to stick into the minds of each and every one of your students, what would it be?

    O-man: Regrets? No, I think I mentioned earlier that I am happy with my life and so do not have any major regrets. I mean we all have little ones--"Oh I wish I hadn't said that," or "Crap, why'd I send that e-mail?" You know, stuff like that. But nothing I would really point to. As an instructor, one basic concept I tell all my students is to

    Do what you want

    I know it sounds hokey, but in college this is the best advice I can give them. More than a few students have come to seek advice as to what to do in the future, and I tell them to do what they want, not what others--usually parents--want them to do. I think I touched on this previously, but I think it bears repeating. Do what you want. I believe that most parents are thinking of the welfare of their child when they tell them to study so they can go to law school, or medical school, or business school. And this is fine if the sudents hopes and dreams coincide with the parent. But what if the student wantes to do something else? Chances are that students, who do what they are told to do when they want to do something else, end up wondering what life would have been like had they chosen what they wanted. They may even regret not having pursued it. Those who choose what they want usually excel because their is no pain in doing something they enjoy. They end up spending a lot of time studying because, for them, it is not longer a chore. Ultimtately, they can follow whatever path they want or need, but if it can incorporate some of what they enjoy doing, it makes it all the more rewarding.  

Comments (24)

  • imahima
    Ha, that is so funny! Ender is a really good kid and very clever...we were in the same class at Nanzan. I remember when I took that placement exam three years ago...none of the Japanese professors were around that week. So I just placed myself! In the highest level! In your class! That was a good decision on my part...I can't believe I never got in trouble with you for that! I was scared of you the first time I met you...I wonder what Ender's first impression was?
  • imahima
    I guess us GW kids talk about you from time to time because Erin and I were talking about you recently in the presence of our Georgetown friend, Alli, and wanting to include her in the conversation, we started to explain who you were and Alli was, like, yeah Onigiriman, I know already!
  • No1watching
    happy father's day! i'll come back to read your post.  man you're so creative.  btw, i like the picture of the sunburned cartoon figure you have as headline.  nice!
  • mstwoshoe

    Hey there! I've fallen way behind on your entries and got lost somewhere back there. I think I'll just jump the line and start here again. Tehee. Anyway, I found your Xanga under the featured content one day and decided to take a little visit. Lately, I've been doing that for many xanga sites that were featured. Any of the ones that I liked, I just subscribed to. But I guess I didn't really think about what the site owner would think, seeing that some random stranger subscribed to his/her site. They all probably think I'm a stalker! (Whee! ...just kidding hehe)

    Anyway, are you in Japan right now? Do they really have those nursery books that talk about doo doo and belly button lint? I've seen those in some bookstores in Boston, and they were definitely Japanese because it was all in hiragana.

  • pallyatheart
    yeah, but what if the kids wants to sell drugs and be gangster? muhahaha...
  • ddsb2000
    Well said! I am one of those people that struggled through the academics in highschool simply because when it came to studying I was extremely unmotivated. My mother sent me to a tutor everday after school just to make sure I did my homework and if I didnt go she would punish me. But nowadays I find motivation in studying anything. And just like you said studying no longer becomes a chore when it becomes enjoyable.
  • globalguy007
  • gokingsgo
    vlade needs a roadtrip.
  • fuafuahamu
    Heheh! Ender and Onigiriman finally meet! I remember that test, I took it right after I took the French test and I was thinking oh my, I should stick to French!!! I probably would have if I hadn't had you for a Sensei!

    I have to say I am pretty lucky to have parents who kind of have the same outlook as you, they have always pretty much told me to do what I want (within certain limits of course).....which is nice for them because I never ever blame them for anything that goes wrong in my life and end up only thanking them for supporting and encouraging me!! I bet you and my dad would get along well! Hhahahahahah!

    By the way, regarding Imahima's pictures (I'm gonna get her for that!) were you asking if we broke any bones or any furniture!? Well neither Not that we normally behave that way in a ryokan, but we had been drinking with Geisha and the other ryugakusei just before that! The Geisha weren't up for any sumo matches so Kim and I wrestled by ourselves :)
  • bane_vixen
    aww, c'mon.  don't make me out to be some monster.  i won't bite.  not hard, anyways.  really.  you never know.  it might be one beating you'll actually enjoy (not the S&M kind).  haha
  • gt_ninja
    Its a small world after all, sensei.
  • wildkat03
    Great advice to college students.  Lucky for me, my parents encouraged me to pursue my interests while in college.  My mom actually pushed me to major in med ethics and I chose chemistry (I had asked her advice in choosing between the two).  I wish I'd chosen med ethics.  They have never pushed me to pursue medicine, which I give them credit for.  As soon as most kids show any interest in becoming doctors their parents usually push them towards it, even if they are four at the time.  So "kids", I hope you will all take Onigiriman's advice to heart.
  • Jennie_Nguyen
    wow! what a nice surprise to hear from you. I subbied to you bc i enjoy your posts, and your written personality. you offer a different p.o.v.- kinda like a wise laid back professor :o) i usually don't leave comments cause i feel i'd be lost in a sea of witty/intelligent comments.
    The last part of your post hit something i've been thinking of lately, changing major from accounting to something more..FUN. but, taking into account job stability-some things like changing career paths are easier said than done.

    I def. agree with you on the no regrets in life. things happen for a reason to build character and our uniqueness. keep up the great posts and i promise to comment more often :o)
  • scslider
    i totally agree about doing what you want.  i know that i'm my biggest motivator, so doing what i want really helps out in that department.
  • Shiroi_Norite
    Do what I want, huh?  This from the man who demanded that I have an actual "reason" to major in Japanese. 
  • kizyr

    Hehe! You finally met Ender, I see, before I got to put in a good word for her like I said I would.

    Oh and keep in mind, she already knows all about you from us. I think she has the advantage here... hehehe {^^}. So did you convince her to take Bungo? KF

  • BarbEric_Bojo
    awsome yet simple advise mang,   ive yet to meet sammy hah
  • simply_marie
    That's so cool! Imahima got so meet you! AND DUDE! YAY You'd visit me and sPIDEY! WOOT! YOu should seriously take that trip! As for me, I'm enjoying my vacation right now! So... relaxing... I gotta tell ya =0) Anywho, thanks for justifying that "Those who choose what they want usually excel because their is no pain in doing something they enjoy." Coming from you...drives me even more to become an educator.
  • whonose
    I sometimes think of the xanga world as one big happy family when I am day-dreaming in one of my idealistic happy moods. I always think that one day there will be a huge xanga reunion and all xanga owners could come together in a massive party and then of course I come back down to reality and realise we'd all end up likely killing each other.
  • takunishi79

    I'm not THAT screwy... just... when I feel like it. *whoo-hoo~!!*
    k, so I'm really a whacko, but people don't REALLY know that... do they?.. hmm... shietz.
    besides, I'll be in the Atlanta/Athens area for one more year. won't be doing any "bumping into" taku any time after that, at least not in the South... ever!!

    okay, it's off to do my studying for midterm in... an hour and 20 minutes. greeeeaaaaaat. i'm so screwed! buwahahahaha!!

  • silvermyst_ashke
    y'know, there's a xangan called cowboybone who's done just that. Only, he did it in Canada.
  • SweetLilV

    most definitely.  if you persue something you want to do rather than something your parents want you to do, then later on in life you'll put more passion into your career, because it is something you like and want to do. 

    ryc: i believe i stumbled upon your page through sekura81's site.  could have been someone else's, but regardless, i'm glad i did

  • onigiri

    that was bound to happen sooner or later. but that's the cool part of xanga, meeting people you didn't know you know until you remember where you first met them! XD

    and i think the whole "Grow up and do what YOU want to do" is something that needs to be repeated over and over again for both parents and their children. some parents become so worked up in their "quest to give their children a better life" that they don't realize how upset their child really is.

    and when you try to tell your parents that you don't want to become a dentist, or a lawyer, they most likely won't listen to you. or even threaten to disown you. eep.

    (and by the way, i stop by whenever i can :)

  • No1watching

    first, does this trip includes visting me as well? hehehhee. 

    kudos that you have no regrets.

    i met a guy who is a doctor.  when i inquired why he choose to be a doctor, he replied, "cuz my parents wanted me to study medicine." 

    i said, "well, then you do what others tell you? is that what you really wanted?"

    he said, "it makes them happy.  being a doctor pays my bill."

    i then replied, "so you're happy?"

    he countered replied, "well, i'm not like you who hasn't finish school."

    i said, "no, you're not.  i got to experienced life.  i was enlisted and i did many things you probably never considered doing.  i don't do things for my parents cuz they want me to be happy.  at least i have a mind of my own. i rather be poor and be happy then rich and with regrets, never getting to do the things i REALLY, truly wanted."

    after that conversation, i gave him the boot. 

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