Tuesday, August 26, 2008
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Men are like dogs and women are like cats?
I've been reading a book on relationships off and on for awhile, and interestingly enough the titles anaology came up in the book last night. The comparison was that men need HUGE amounts of praise and affection and in return they will be devoted. Women want their doting on their terms and when they are ready for it.
I sat around thinking about the statement for quite some time and wondered about this. For instance, the book says if you want your bf/hubby/significant other of the male persuasion to bring you flowers more often, that when HE DOES do it, you should praise him like it is the best thing he has ever done for you.
Then I sat around thinking that if a man acted towards me like that...hopping around, cheering, being a total goober over something I did for him, I would probably roll my eyes and wonder what he smoked before I got home! XD
On the flip side the book said that women expect men to know we appreciate them because of all the things we do for them. Normally, women run the "household" and take care of the majority of the domestic duties (not to say that men never help, but Jeff Foxworthy said it best "Women are not as proud of the 99% of work they do as men are of their 1.") So men are supposed to know we love them by what we do for them in the domestic sense. This was brought up in the sense that men are low on the priority list as far as sex goes when there are children, jobs, housework etc etc that need to be done.
What do you think? As a man are you more entitled to continue to do something for a woman if she fawns all over you in appreciation? As a woman, do you show your affection in what you do for him domestically, or by physical contact? Do you set aside alone time for your man?
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::replaces "entitled" with "encouraged":: I think "encouraged" is a better word, for what you mean... and the answer is yes. praise from my woman does encourage me to do more stuff for her... considering the fact taht men and women do not think and perceive things the same, the findings you read in your book and your thoughts confirm that.
I think that most men, do not sit and wait like to a dog to be praised, but we take great effort to think of something that will really please our women and expect appreciation shown. I think women also wants to be told they are appreciated as well, right?
so...it's really a two-way street...
i do things for my so because i like to please her. if she does not like flowers, why give her such? if she is going to lie about it and say she likes something i am doing but doesnt, what good is the relationship. fawning all over me will not keep me continuing to do it as i will see it is over acted. if she is only showing affection in the domestic department, then i wont be around much but then i am the type to do my part in the household "chores". if you really care about eachother, then you will find those things that will please eachother. some domestic, some physical. i learned that if "she" did not see me doing my part of the household chores, i was not given credit. there shoul dnot be "your job because you are a guy" or "her job because she is the girl". if i cook..then she does the dishes. if her car needs gas and a wash..i do that. i think that if you really care then you will notice what pleases eachother and do those things. but...nothing wrong by giving hints. lol
Okay, that's not funny, I just did a post about women and mentioned Jeff Foxworthy.
well,, if were talking about marraige,,, and it looks like we may not,,, but i suspect all relationships could go along the same lines,,,
altho things have changed in clintons wake,,, there used to be something in the wedding vows,,, may still be there,, but disregarded,,, i myself hadnt thought about it,,, but it was pointed out to me...
in their quest for,,, i dunno what,,, women have chosen to disregard the vows, whether or not taken,,,
a woman is to honor and obey,,,, nothing else,,, pretty simple id think,,, the rest of her time would be for her to do as she pretty much pleased,,,,
a man is supposed to,,, hahahahahaha,,, i forget,,,, protect and cherish,,, protect dont really sound sound right,,,, i never claimed to be a preacher,,, nor a church goer.
any real man,,, honored and obeyed,,,, would have a lifetime contract,,, until vows broken do we part,,, hahahahahahahaha
i dunno,,, fortunately i really havent found one that honored or obeyed,,, makes leaving a whole lot easier at the end of the day.
Well, I'm a sucker for praise, personally. Tell me I'm doing a great job and watch me wiggle my tail.
Give me an "Ata boy" and throw me a stick. I'll run for it everytime.
I think these rules work in general, but you also need to know the quirks of the person your with. And yes, men in general feel loved thru praise, admiration and physical affection. ~ L
I never get any time alone with my hubby. I gave up a long time ago on that
ha~ha And tied in the back yard so they don't go sniffing around to much too! I am so kidding. Yep I love cats so if you want to say I am catty Ok My hubby is a dog!
It seems like a fairly accurate analogy, though like all analogies it is not perfect and does not apply to everyone. I would say I show affection to my husband both with the domestic work I do to take care of our home and by "physical contact." I would not say one takes priority over the other.
Good post, but I don't have an answer for that, since it's been years since I've lived with a man! (Other than brothers and parents, and that's just gross!
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I remember when I was first married, my husband bought me flowers and I was very appreciative but didn't give him the praise that he was really wanting. I think some men (not all) like the praise for things they do as a way of them knowing that we appreciate it.
I *WISH* I could show my affection for Kelly by doing domestic things for him... and physical contact? Don't even mention it. I can't do it now.