Just to head this off before it gets too insane:
Yes, there are moms out there that only want daughters too, and get upset when I tell them it's a boy.
No, this father probably isn't going to ruin his daughter's life by having wanted a boy and not gotten one.
Yes, I took it seriously, and got more upset than maybe I should have.
I'd like to point out at this time that this is the purpose of my blog - to share my thoughts and feelings. They aren't always right, they aren't always perfect, but that is and was how I felt about the situation. Reading a blog is like seeing a snapshot... you can draw your instant impression, but chances are pretty good you're only seeing a little part of what happened for one single moment in time. Instant judgments are almost never right.
I do over 20 ultrasounds per day. They aren't always bad, they don't always upset me, and when I ask parents what they want, the majority of them respond, "Just a healthy baby!" But when something does upset me, when I feel like it's been a little too much, or a little too hard, or maybe I've just had a bad day... I write about it.
I thank so so so many of you for your kind and wonderful, thoughtful comments. I'm grateful for the insights of those who have gotten the child they wanted, and even more for the ones that didn't get to have their little one exactly as planned. I hope, when it is my turn to have children, I can live up to the words I wrote... but like everyone, I will just do my best.
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Comments (21)
Hey...happy thoughts...how many days until your wedding????
See, I knew that would make you smile!!
@MustangSally04 - You know me too well! Made me laugh out loud. Thanks :D
@justdosomething - Haha, Thanks! 57 days!!!
Are some people giving you a hard time about your featured post? Shame on them! It was beautiful and heartfelt. There's no need to justify your thoughts or emotions--they are your own.
:)
It's all good.
Yes, i agree that blog is just a platform to say our feelings,
to share with others, or just for no reasons.
Thus, keep it on.
It wasn't his fault, but that dad just happened to push one of your buttons. At least you were careful not to let him know what you were feeling.
@Amarisa - I agree with Amarisa, you shouldn't have to justify your thoughts to anyone. I think it was a great post :) Keep them coming :)
LOL. There are also mommy's like my cousin who are told through 4 ultrasounds that your having a girl only to deliver a bouncing baby boy!! His "pee pee" was hiding.. Keep up the good posts!!!
Hello, i come from Hong Kong ! ^0^
I am not really good at English = (
You're going to have a child?????
HI there, I was hoping you could tell me the steps you took to become an ultrasound technician. I'm interested in the occupation and I thought you could help me. Thanks! =)
hello there! thank you so much for accepting my friend invite! wiheeee! :] i hope we become really good friends. by the way, my name is Ritz, i'm 20 years old, i come from the Philippines.
Good on you for having the guts to be honest about your thoughts and your feelings and share it with others.
Gender issues are always a hot button topic; my own thoughts are that men and women are eternally desperate to learn from each other. That's why your post attracted so many people. We will spend all of our lives trying to learn from each other and in the end there will still be mysteries unsolved.
Good Morning Daughter!
I had to get your father to read yesterdays blog (which I did not receive yesterday???), just to see what he would say about this situation. His response was as follows. How silly ! The only good thing about having a boy first is that the big brother can and will usually look out for the younger sister. And other than that we weren't stopping until we had our girl ! Thank goodness it only took three tries to get it right. Could you imagine having like 10 older brothers??
Love you and miss you more
Mom
Your last post was amazing. It really caused me to think about my family. I believe that my father was disappointed that i didnt turn out a boy but i'm too scared to get confirmation from him. I know my mom was happy that i turned out as a female though :D.
Anywhos, I'm interested in becoming an ultrasound technician. Can you give me some advice on where i should study and some details about how much schooling i'll have to go through? Thanks!
Mom and Dad's response is cool! haha...10 older brothers! that would have been something! you would have been spoiled rotten!
Who says I wasn't?? :D
It's cool. Congratulations on your wedding. And thanks for adding me as your friend.
your completely right. blogs arent' supposed to be for judging.
I don't think there was anything wrong with how you felt or how you responded. I think people should see the point in your post instead of pointing out that mommies can want boys just like the daddies, or that they can want girls just as bad. Either way, the point lays out just the same. Of course, people just like to find things to bitch about.
Oh well. Regardless, I still liked and appreciated your entry.
I liked your moms response by the way. LOL. 10 older brothers! Id be afraid to be the guy who wanted to ask you out on a date! Or your hand in marriage! Yikes!