i've talked about want and need in the context of a sign of
dependency in a relationship, but i want to talk about something
further in this concept...

consider the things you really need in life. literally. off the top of my head, i can come up with: God, air, drink, food. 2nd tier needs would be: purpose and direction. i honestly can not rationalize anything beyond that. feel free to write us at sensitivemen@hotmail.com if you can come up with anything else.
basically, everything else is a want. i've come to acknowledge that wants and needs do go hand in hand.

for instance, you need food. but you WANT KFC. so which is greater? the need for food or the want for the colonel's chicken? i would argue that the want is greater, or greater in the sense that it's more personal and has more meaning. you need air. you're seldom truly thankful and really strongly desiring of air because of it. you're thirsty. a dr. pepper is the greatest drink in the world, but water would certainly suffice to quench thirst.

so want, in effect, is more personal and certainly nearly by definition more desirable than need.

how does this tie in with relationships? easily. don't fool yourself into thinking you "need" this person. you don't. the earth will continue to rotate around the sun and you'll still have your vital organs tomorrow. a need is a complete and utter dependency on something. a want is desired, craved, and sought after. you more likely "want" the girl or the guy.

in a poetic sense, sure, you "need" the person. you need the person to keep you sane or keep you company, but don't you dare think that that person alone can do it. that's tomfoolery. i find it far more romantic that out of 3 billion women in this world, i want and choose this girl to share life with. wouldn't you agree? if you "need" a certain someone, than you don't have a choice. you're ball and chained to this one person...you can't control it. it controls you. just doesn't seem like love to me. it's kind of like how you have to
love your family members, both blood and through the blood of Jesus, but you don't have to like them.

so, fellas, stop with the "i need you" crap. think of a more eloquent and true way to express how you feel. even worse, don't say you need someone after you've broken up...that just feels weird.