He sat there staring at me over the rim of his beer. He liked drinking out of thick glass mugs that were kept in the freezer, though we had only been dating for three weeks I already knew this about him.
"So I write." I told him, as he raised one eyebrow. I picked the label off of my soda bottle. "About alot of stuff." I proceed stammering through my words with hesitation behind every one.
"Did you think this was going to be a problem?" He asks. "Cause thats cool." He said "cool" with the inflection that means it truly is, indeed, cool. I loved that about him, his level-headed, laid back attitude, even there and then when our relationship was so new.
I traced my mental inventory, there it was, an annoyingly long list of people that had described my writing with a certain passion only portrayed accurately using synonyms for hate. Family and friends had not taken well to the thought of my writing being in such a public forum, but here was a person that seemed unjustly comfortable with it.
"If we are going to be together, you need to know there is a damn good chance I am going to write about you." I bite my tongue. He doesnt appear to be startled, but it is early in this intense conversation, so I continue on. I explain the pro's and con's of being with a writer, and what it would mean about our personal life.
"So?" He just keeps saying after each point I try to make. He isnt phased, and I like it. "I think its sexy." He tells me. This is when I knew I had to marry him.
How do you tell your friends and families about your writing?
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I don't tell most of them. None of my friends know. My father, mother, cousin, one aunt and my husband know. And I had been writing about my husband before I knew we were going to be more than just a date or two. he did not know about it at the time.
My blogging, I am not really a writer like you are, is a place were I just let things out. I prefer that few personal friends read it. It has been a while since I have been so personal on my blog. But that is how it all started.
Yeah, I can't really write intimately any more at all. I don't know what happened or when this particular defense mechanism constructed itself. Lame, I know, right? But whatev, when I need to vent something I do what everyone else does ... (drunk phone calls! Yay!)
i don't tell my friends about my blogging. i prefer it that none of my personal friends read my blog. it's the only place i can let myself say what i want and what i feel. if i know they are reading, i would have to censor a lot of things, and it defeats the purpose really...
Tell your significant other about everything. That's good advice.
My family loves that I write but then I don't really write about them. I write about the human condition and try to tell a story that someone will either relate or not. My husband is glad that I write. I'm more complete when I can let my thoughts flow.
@Platonic_Water -
you used to be So emo. Its still there, its just coming out in musical form.
My family has known I write, since middle school.. nothing they ever get to read really..poems and short stories...etc... and now they know I have my blog, but only one sister is privy to its whereabouts.... I have it as my venting spot. Everyone is given fake names, and my family appreciates that... the OTHER sister, once investigated around until she found the site, and it happened to be around one entry when she was discussed (as the "crazy sister I don't like" LOL) and she hasnt really spoken to me since. But.. oh well... she went to great lengths to find something that is considered my PRIVATE journal... so I figure same rules apply. If you read someones paper journal, you can't get upset at what you find. And I don't mind her not talking to me anyway... after all, she's "the crazy sister I don't like."
hehe, some of my friends know that i recenlty got a new xanga. i don't plan on telling any of them what it is, though. ;) most of them would probably go off on me if they knew all that i said about them.
everyone knows i write for the most part. *shrug* its never soemthing ive hidden. and if people didnt accept it, what do i care. as dr suess put it - "the people that mind dont matter, and the people that matter dont mind."
I do not really speak of my writing. My mother and brother know I blog. They know I keep a paper journal...and a handful (MAYBE) of my friends know I blog. They're all okay with it. They've never outright asked if I blog about them, or have ever mentioned them. So I figure if they've never asked, no need to bring it up. If they did ask, I would tell them if I have or have not ever blogged about them, or my relationship/friendship or whatever with them...hmm, I think I'm rambling. Sorry.
I do not tell anyone about my Xanga in real life.
wow...sounds like a cool guy. seriously.
i really dont. i write on xanga as more of a journal.
My family knows that I write. I show them what I show them. For now, the journal is my own--only select friends know about it.
And I love your husband's reaction to your writing.
Lord I don't!!!!
My husband knows I write...we're writing three books together, but he doesn't know about my blog, that is something for me and me alone, a place I need to feel like is only for me.
As for friends...hardly any of them besides the one's I have here know I write, and though my mother knows I have written in the past, she has no idea about my erotica writing...and if I have my way, she may never.
My younger sister knows I blog, but she did tell me once that she doesn't want me to talk about my parents or siblings because she thinks it's an invasion of privacy. Of course, I bristled at that, but I try to respect her wishes because she's my sister.
My older sister doesn't really know I blog. I don't think she really cares that much, as long as (again) I don't talk about her and her life in too much detail.
My mom probably doesn't even know what a blog is.
My boyfriend says I can write about him, but I did change his name to protect his privacy. :)
My hubby is very private about our sex life, but he delights when I write about him in any other context. My mother-in-law reads my blog. She asked if it was okay and I laughed. But now I know to keep her in mind when I write. I encouraged my mother to blog with me. It means I avoid certain subjects for my own comfort, but I still express my opinions whenever I want. It's groovy.
@BoureeMusique -
do you find that you censor yourself because you know who is reading?
@bubblysox -
I have the same thing, now my family just makes up random screen names and sneaks in here. Silly idiots!
I just shut down a little socnet, and my blogs. I came to xanga to get away from feeds and forums about politics. My SO knows I post here and that's it.
Nice write
@antisoccermom - I think I did at first but now I've come into my own. Anything I would want to say and don't is for lack of complete anonymity... and those things aren't worth saying anyway.
@phil_leafman - you dont tell anyone? Thats crazy! How old are you? Just curious, since you seem to have so much energy and time!
@IfWallsCouldTalk21 -
Dont ask dont tell eh?
@The_Enigmax0x -
sometimes you just need to get it out, right?
@lyricsninja -
I really wish i could feel that way about it, but Ive been through some crazy shit because of my writing, so I have always been very apprehensive about it.
@wowselesta -
What would you do if your family found your online journal? Do you take any measures to prevent it?
@Blue__Summer -
He is the one, let me tell you.
@basilhayden -
As always, thanks for coming by, and offering your input. Does your SO mind if you blog about them?
My wife had to blog for her job as a magazine editor. I was pleasantly surprised about the nice things she said about me. No juicy details, thank god.