Tuesday, February 05, 2008

• Marriage is not the cure all for loneliness!!!

  Ok, so I just wanted to write and get this down on paper and thought you might be interested to read it.
  

  
  Here goes...

          So, on Sunday nights at church Dr. Ross has been preaching on marriage and the difficulties and trials and beauties of it all. This past Sunday he talked about being single and the joys you can have as a single man or woman serving Christ fully with your heart with nothing to care about except Jesus.            

          Ok, so there's that point of view to be single and then there's the other part, getting married. Being married takes part of you away from God in a sense of having to provide for a family and husband or wife which ever the person is. So, your time is divided. Half of your time you spend caring about the people in your life and you are responsible for and the other part you is devoted to God. The problem though is that you are tied down and you can't go where ever at the drop of a hat, you have a family that you have to consult or husband or wife.

          Ok, so that's the first part on the whole marriage thing. Second, everyone thinks that marriage is about love and sex and all that jazz. Ok, so it is partially but there's more to a relationship than just those things mentioned. You've got to have the commitment to work behind it to give up those little extras and sacrifice willingly for the other person.  People think that if they can just have a little bit of romance that their lives will be great and things will go well. Ok, it might work for a little bit but it won't last forever, so here's the next thing.

           Marriage is one of the most difficult decisions you will ever make in your whole life. It's not something to take lightly. Dr. Ross quoted a statement that he likes to tell young engaged couples, " A good marriage is not something you get it's something you have to work for." Marriage is a commitment to take care of that person for rich or for poor, in sickness and in health till death due us part. Ok, so what does that really mean. It means don't get divorced you make a vow and you don't break it. Be what you say you are. Be a woman of your word. Just because you're in an up hill battle that doesn't seem to be ending any time soon doesn't give you the liberty to end the relationship. You've got to give to the relationship.

             So, now I've given my sh peel on the vows and importance of marriage, this is what I want in my marriage in the man that I marry if I marry. I'm not going to look for him though it will be difficult to not look. If someone comes along I don't care about his looks or what he does, those are material things. What I want that will be most important in my marriage is my relationship with God towards my husband. I want to live a Christ-centered life where I work to make my marriage work. Where, in the rough times I can stand by my husband and we can pray and cry together and know that God is in control and that even when we're drowning Christ is there the pick us up. I don't want to find a man based on romance. But don't get my wrong, I do like romance. I love to watch romantic movies and see them all happy at the end but that's not what a relationship is all about. Put Christ first and everything else will fall into place. I want to be able to study the Scriptures and understand them and though I know I won't be able to get it all I want to struggle with the issues in the bible. I want to know what it means to strive to live a holy and godly life. I want to understand what it means to Love the Lord with all your heart, with all your strength and with all your mind.

  So, I've said all this in essences to say that a love based relationship is all that the world thinks it is. There's more to a relationship than just the kissing and holding one another.

          Here's something else, people like to get into relationships because they think it will take away the loneliness they feel. They think that if they could just have someone to come home to or love them that the loneliness would go away. It won't!!!! All of this to say that I don't want to look for that future one in my life even though I know that  I will try at times. I want to focus on Christ and live for Him and if God sees fit to place a husband and family in my life, then I pray that I would always keep Christ at the center of my life that I might overflow with blessings to my family and those around me.

  That's all.

  
  Marriage is not a cure all for loneliness."

  
  Thanks for just listening.

  
  
  

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