Currently Playing King of Fools By Delirious? see related

"even in the so-called gross sins [of life], we often resort to euphemisms to mitigate their severity.  i sat with some friends across the table from a christian leader who said, 'i have had an affair.'  of course we all knew what he meant, but i later wished i had had the presence of mind to say to him, 'bob, look me in the eye and say, 'i have committed adultery.''  we need to call sin what the Bible calls it and not soften it with modern expressions borrowed from our culture."

--Jerry Bridges, Why the Cross?

to sum it all up:  how can we understand grace until we have really grappled with the issue of sin, until we have come face to face with our own sin?