I'm still in Indonesia.

I suddenly find myself more diplomatic than I thought after seeing all my relatives. And it is a pleasure to see someone whom I haven't seen for 10 years. I have so many nephews and nieces.

"I think it is a chronic disease just to hide up my feelings until there is only me and God in my solitude.

It is a relationship you're talking about, so, you there should be you, your friend and God. Like you've said, without communication, things turn disastrous.

Especially the boys, you know? They never talk about the problems of relationships candidly. It's even so with Chinese people. I completely dislike this kind of attitude. They are just escaping. They simply think that talking about the problems which occured in relationships is not "macho". A distorted way of thinking indeed, and cowardly.

If you take the initiative to talk, then some people may even show resistance. Why? Probably evasion. But you would prove to be a better person in God's view to seek reconciliation."

So well said.