If you look at anything good that's ever happened to you in your life -- anything that is sustainable and consistently good -- it is because you made it happen. That critical basketball game you won didn't just "manifest." You trained hard and played your butt off to win. The promotion you got at work didn't just "magically" happen. You worked hard for it.

In reality, beautiful women do not fall from the sky and aggressively pursue you because they like a challenge and magically recognize your inner qualities. I have yet to meet one person who has experienced this. Even good-looking guys don't have this happen to them (with the exception of Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise). In real life, women wait around to be approached. They don't put themselves "out there" by pursuring men the way we'd like them to. They aren't mind readers who know that you're thinking and feeling, and they can't magically spot the inner qualities of a man.

Anyone who doesn't recognize this is a fool, a dreamer, or a little bit of both.

I've often had conversations with guys about this. Topics like "true love" and "love at first sight" often come up as arguments AGAINST the reality of relationships and dating. These are things fairy tales are made of. Not reality. The one objection I get a lot is the belief that there is a person out there "fated" to meet you and fall in love with you. After all, isn't there "someone for everyone?"

The hard answer to that is: BULLSHIT. This is probably the worst lie there is.

It's true that there is, in fact, someone for everyone... but fate, destiny, true love, and love at first sight has nothing to do with it. The people who believe this are what I call "hopeless romantics." And as it turns out, they are also the men who are the most bitter and angry with women -- because time after time, they are disappointed.

When we refuse to deal with reality, we set ourselves for heartbreak, frustration, despair, and any number of other negative emotions. We are given an excuse to shrug off responsibility and blame the universe for our problems. We become victims.