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Original: 12/19/2006 2:24 AM
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Tuesday, December 19, 2006

 

We have a notion in this world that we must go to school and get a good education so we can be successful in life. But I find, more often than not, the most important skills to learn are not only ignored by our schools and society at large, but actively shunned. Things like dating, sex, and finances -- arguably three of the most important things in life -- are completely overlooked in the development of human beings. Is it any wonder we have so many cases of depression, anxiety, loneliness, divorce, sexual dysfunction, and debt in the world?

Often, we are left to our own devices to learn these skills on our own, through trial and error. Some succeed at it, but most do not. The people who fail at learning them on their own get caught in vicious cycle where bad behaviours are reinforced and skills stagnate instead of develop.

Healthy relationships are vital to living a happy life. Nothing can compare to the company of a good woman you love. In the end, I think that's all many men want. The world could end tomorrow, and all we'd want today is to find solace in our lover's arms. But instead of being taught correctly by society on how to be happy, we are made to feel guilty about our desires, about sex, about dating. We're taught the wrong way to do things -- things that might have worked 100 to 1000 years ago, but are useless today.

We still try to win affection with gifts and truckloads of money, even though we know that is a waste of a great deal of time and effort. We obsess over our looks, even though we can't really change who we are. We obsess over what kind of car we drive, what kind of clothes we wear, and how our hair is styled, even though what's in fashion today can easily fall out of fasion tomorrow.

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To a great extent, we are socialized into the persons we are today. That said, I agree with you that we need to constantly reflect on what is important, what is true for the self, and not merely follow trends.

However, I don't agree that dating, sex, and finances are the most significant things in life. Imagine growing up in Darfur or other parts of the world where there is war and/or lack of food, I don't think those three things would matter at all. We will be fighting to survive and live on a day-to-day basis. The reality for one may be totally irrelevant for another. Understanding and embracing diversity, and being non-judgmental are therefore such critical virtues everyone should strive for.
Posted 12/19/2006 3:33 AM by toroboy - reply

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that's damn right - healthy relationships = good life
having a good woman = good life

i see your perspective towards woman is not so negative anymore compared to your previous posts.
Posted 12/19/2006 1:40 PM by misstcc - reply

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Within the context of the reality we live in toroboy, I do agree that dating, sex and finances are the most significant things in our society.

I mean you can extrapolate the logic you are using ie. saying that food is most important in other parts of the world. But who cares? It is not the situation we live in. You can also say that fifty thousand years ago there was no fire and people had to hunt for food to survive..and in those days, survival was the only thing that mattered.

just to generalize and looking at the CONTEXT that we live in finances, sex and dating are very important things in contemporary society.
Posted 12/21/2006 5:55 AM by glai82 - reply


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