| | Have you ever blown it with a woman that you really liked?
Maybe she was even interested in you in the beginning… but you
somehow managed to screw it up anyway?
I know I
have.
And after it would happen, I would rack my brain for
weeks trying to figure out what I did wrong.
I would act
out every possible scenario in my mind…
“What if I had said
this to her instead of this?”
“Maybe I should have
called her on Thursday instead of waiting 2 days… Did it look like I was playing
games? Or maybe I should have waited 3?”
“Did I miss my chance to
make a move? Maybe if I had just done it when we were at ___, everything would
have turned out alright…”
I would go through these scenarios over
and over again—in my mind and to my friends… no doubt driving them
nuts.
I would eventually figure out where I thought I had made my
mistake… and swear not to ever make that same mistake again.
And
then I’d meet another special woman…
I would promise myself that
THIS TIME… I was going to do it right.
And guess what happened?
You got it. I would manage to screw it up
again.
I went through this painful cycle MANY
times.
If you’re like most guys, you’ve been there… and you know
how much it sucks.
It feels like things might NEVER work out for
you with a woman you are REALLY interested in… and that you might be forced to
“settle” for someone you’re not really into… or no one at
all.
When we blow it with a woman we like, we tend to attribute
our screw-ups to the “little things”… because it feels like that is where
we made our mistakes.
We tend to analyze these things to death -
“Maybe I should have waited for her to call me” or… “Maybe I should have made a
move here” or… “If only I wouldn’t have said ___”, etc…
Well, I
never realized it at the time, but there was something MUCH BIGGER going on in
these situations than the “details”…
Yes, our screw-ups probably
WERE the result of one or more of these mistakes…
Maybe we called
at the wrong time or too many times… maybe we missed our opportunity to make a
move… or maybe the “wuss” slipped out and we said or did the wrong thing…
But the real problem here is not the mistakes themselves…
Our problem is the REASON WHY we keep on making these
mistakes.
I’m sure you’ve noticed how guys who are “naturally”
successful with women don’t seem to “screw it up” very often…
It’s like they can grab the attention of any woman they choose—
and keep her interested as long as they want to—without needing any “techniques”
or lines to help them do it.
But how?
How do they
know just the right thing to say at the right time, or when to make a move… or
how to get a woman interested in them in the first
place?
Some guys just seem to know what to do with
women… why don’t we?
Isn’t attracting women supposed to be a
natural thing to do?
Our ancestors have been meeting and
attracting women for MILLIONS of years… if they hadn’t, we wouldn’t be here.
So, up until now, why did we keep on screwing things up?
Shouldn’t we have known this stuff instinctively? |
| | Posted 12/27/2006 7:02 AM - 5 views - 2 comments
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