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Friday, July 25, 2008

Flowers

I don't remember where I got this photo, but it's not mine...and I love it!

Isn't it beautiful!?!
Girls and Guys - We're NOT Equal!

A beautiful thing about relationships is that he has the desire to protect and she has the desire to feel protected.

When there's a snake on the trail in front of me, I like to watch my guy toss the creature aside. I feel protected.

When I'm afraid that someone at work is going to yell at me, I like when my guy jokingly says, "where does he live? I'm going to have a talk with this dude!" Again, I feel protected.

I can't comprehend why some girls would want to consider themselves equal with guys. When they want to be "tough girl" who can handle everything a guy can handle, they're giving up the feeling of having a protector…and I think feeling protected is too great a feeling to want to give up.

When a girl feels protected, she also feels loved and cared for. When the "tough girl" won't allow a guy to act as her protector, she is also preventing him from showing his love and care for her through protecting her. Again, I don't know why any girl would want to give those things up!?!

I know I'm not an equal to a guy…I'm different…and sometimes (often) he is the stronger one; the leader. I like that!

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Personal Choice: Kiss a Soldier

War is not attractive! Blood is gross. Weapons are scary. And some poor little girl has to ask her mommy, "when's daddy coming home" and mommy's answer isn't "for dinner tonight dear."

Some people choose to be stay-at-home-moms. Some people choose to teach third graders mathematics 5 days a week. Some people choose to be gay. "That is NOT a CHOICE" you say. "Ah, semantics…just drop it!" I reply. Some people choose to be a soldier. It is a CHOICE. It is a personal choice and I'm all for personal choice!

We don't require U.S. citizens to join the military. We don’t train our children to fight wars at a young age. The military an option; it is a person's own personal choice whether they want or do not want to join. Plus, there are perks to joining. Free college, cool uniforms, and a sense of heroism and pride. And did I mention the attention of the ladies…?

So, though I am not a big advocate of war, I don't like fighting, and I glare my eyes for a split second each time I hear that another soldier has fallen; I AM a BIG advocate of the United States military and WILL NOT bash the war. Being a soldier is not only honorable, but also very attractive to the ladies (I couldn't resist adding that little detail)!

Soldiers chose to be soldiers. I choose to support their personal choice.

Go on...dislike war. Go on...dislike violence and death and blood and fighting. But if you feel like bashing the war that our BRAVE soldiers are fighting, I suggest you shut up and kiss a soldier before a single word leaves your lips!

Happy Smooching!
The Typical Woman Wants...Money?!?

"…the typical woman is looking for a husband who is capable enough to enable her to leave the workforce if she so desires. As she evaluates her future with a man, she instinctively considers his ability to take care of her and the children.

The good-willed woman marries for love, not for money; nonetheless, she is very aware of the need to make a "nest." She asks herself, "Can he provide sufficiently to make it possible for me to stay home with my little chicks if that's what I want to do full time?"

The woman who asks this question is being wise."

Hmmmm…! I loved my fiancé in spite of his financial position…I couldn't have changed my heart just because he didn't make as much as I did. Perhaps I was being unwise…?!?

But what's a girlie to do when she's head-over-heels for her boyfriend; a boyfriend who won't be able to comfortably support her as a stay-at-home-mom? Choose money over love and leave him...?

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Where's My Right to Choose to Stay Home?

I was reading a Christian book about love and such. And, although I was interested in what the book had to say, it was a frustrating read.

The book was written as if it were a given that all women will stay home and care for their children. Perhaps my frustration came from the fact that I couldn't ever see my ex-fiancé as being able to support me financially. I make way too much to ever have been able to leave my job and he doesn't make nearly enough.

The book stated that it was a woman's choice whether she wanted to go after pregnancy or profession…and that all women will, at some point, desire the pregnancy part.

Reading on, I got more and more upset until I finally put the book away. Women should do this for a man. And do that. And he should financially provide. It's a man's natural desire to "hunt and gather" and a woman's natural desire to nest. And blah…blah…blah. She puts him on a pedastal, respects him, and let's him "wear the pants" and he will give her the love she so desires.

I agree. But it's not fair! Perhaps things should be that way. Perhaps that is the most natural way to live life. But I'm a girl at that marry-or-work-or-both stage and I DON'T FEEL LIKE I HAVE A CHOICE! I feel like I HAVE to work.

Why isn't the government supporting (financially) girlies who want to be stay-at-home moms? Why do they support criminal and drug rehabilitation - to make our communities better and to create better citizens. Well, what are our communities and citizens going to be like if all the babies are growing up in daycares with overworked, stressed out mommies they only get to see at night an on the weekend?

Sheesh! Is it a choice these days? Can girlies just choose to not work? With gas prices alone, that's reason enough to need a double income! Not to mention those darn student loans...!