Tuesday, January 08, 2008
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Restrining Order and New Number...or not!
I have not talked to the ex- in 5 days! He has not called me. I have not called him.
Last night I had bible study for the first time in two weeks. We had so much to catch up on with each other! When I told the group of the ex- situation, they were shocked and afraid. This was not the guy they once knew; they guy who seemed to honor the Lord.
The asked...no, they commanded....that I change my phone number and get a restraining order. They told me I have until Thursday to do these things. I don't want to. And I don't feel that I need to. After all, he has been leaving me alone!
The ex- hasn't bothered me in 5 days. He hasn't bothered me since I told him "We're done for good, please leave me alone." He has said some violent things about me and my freinds, but not to my face. Is there any reason why I should change my number or get a restraining order?
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Comments (10)
Did you get the situation with our thins fixed? I hope so.
If hethreatens you directly I would go make a police report but other thenthat it's probably okay...
Praying or you...
i dont think you should.
and i think it is very unfair of your bible group to expect you to do this.
all that changing your phone number will do is inconvenience you because you will have to tell everybody etc. . .
and there is no need for a restrainging order because he has not said anything to you. there are really no grounds for it. i know he has said violent stuff (although im not sure what actually was said) but people do that when they are angry or depressed.
keep the phone number. forget about the restraining order, it will just make you feel uncomforatble and sad.
so just be happy.
=]
Just out of curiosity, how doe they have the right to "demand" that you do this by Thursday?
^^^ I have most of my things. He has a couple fishing poles and a 4-wheeled, which he promised to fix up before giving back to me.
^^ He said he'd slit my throat and my friends' throat if he ever saw us together.
^ They don't have the "right" to demand this, they just want me to be safe. They're going to call on Friday to make sure my number is changed.
Make it known that you are your own person. Them *demanding* anything of you is totally out of order. If your ex hasn't bothered you since you ended it with them, then why go to all the trouble of getting the police involved and having an order out against him or indeed changing your number. People say things when they are angry, so his *saying* things about you may just be his way of venting about the situation you've both come through. We all can say some things about other people that we don't mean. It doesn't mean those people then go and get restraining order out against us because they happen to have *heard* we said something about them.
I'm just curious, if you *don't* do the whole restraining order/change the phone number fiasco by thursday, what exactly do *they*, the people in your study group, intend to do about it? It all sounds rather threatening and ominous they way you describe it.
I understand your bible group is just trying to convey to you that they are worried about you and have your best interests at heart, but I'm gonna put my two cents in and say that I dont think changing your number and getting a restraining order are needed at this point. Just give it some more time....
A restraining order sounds a bit harsh. Give him time. He'll get over it.
I would at least change the number ---> don't give him a chance to "be weak" or to "stumble". I am not certain about the restraining order, you apparently said something to the group that made them concerned for your safety - - I think it's not easy to ever think anything horrible about someone you once cared so deeply about though. Just be cautious and aware, and if he does come around, then I would call the local PD -- they would have a report on file then, should there be any further incidents.
wow demanding by a certain date seems harsh, has he ever hit you or have you ever felt threatened? if not then why bother----in PA it costs money for a restraining order AND it also costs money to get your number changed seems alittle outlandish to do all this unless your bible study group is willin to fork out the money to pay for the changes if not then I wouldnt worry about it.
that is nice that they are concerned about you, but I'd probably wait until it is more necessary...and hope it never is.