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Original: 6/12/2002 5:31 PM
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Wednesday, June 12, 2002

 

Sorry about my last rant. I was going to say more but I can't think of anything right now except that I'm sorry to those of you that had to see all that. And I'd like to just move on because there's no sense in letting it go on and on, and getting more upset about it.

I had planned to tell you guys about our new dog yesterday. She's a sweetheart really. She is really good and has the strangest eyes....blue, almost a clear looking light blue. I've never seen the likes of those eyes. I think I'm gonna like her.

Also my son's birthday was this passed weekend and we went to my mom's house for his party. That's another story. And a sad one actually.

I saw my nephew, Andy, at the party and he is doing well but he had lost more weight since the last time I saw him, which kind of worried me, because he was so frail from the arthritis and the meds to begin with. For those of you that are new, my nephew Andy has rheumatoid arthritis, and until he got it, I thought of arthritis in a whole different light. It nearly killed him, but with the help of all my xanga friends and many people across the nations, I believe that he was healed by the unending prayers of so many wonderful and caring people. He was so sick, and suddenly went into remission.....and has stayed there.

The sad part was finding out that my sister isn't getting any better. When I asked Andy about his recent weight loss, he tells me that it's because his momma won't allow him to eat after 8 pm, and refuses to call him in for dinner. If he keeps playing, which he is finally healthy enough to do, she just tells him too bad, that he should have came in for supper. He generally gets carried away like any normal child and forgets...or probably has no idea when supper is ready. He stays and plays. He wasn't able to play or even go to school for so long there, but he kept trying and trying.

Then my neice and he proceeded to tell me about the beatings Andy was receiving. He is on restriction for the whole summer now. You want to know why? Because a neighbor came to the house while my sister and her husband were gone, and asked to borrow a pack of cigarettes, and Andy let him have one of his dads. When my sister found this out, she beat the shit out of him....by her own admission. I heard her telling my mom this story. My neice went on to tell me that she then asked him a question about it and after he answered, she beat him again, then when she got through yelling, and letting him explain, she beat him a third time. Then when his dad came home, asshole that he is, he straightened out a coat hanger and beat Andy with it again, telling him that if he ever dared to touch his cigarettes again, he would shove it straight up his ass...etc" And both of them told him to go ahead and call child abuse, that then he could just go live with someone else and they wouldn't have to put up with his crap.

I listened to this story and it made me sicker than I already was. I had to kiss my son in the middle of his birthday and leave or I would have killed her! Maybe I should have, but my daughter depends on me, so that is not an option. My sister is bipolar....as if that explains it. Not to me, it doesn't. Yes, I called child welfare AGAIN. What is it going to take?

My sister just laughed to my mom about it and told her they wouldn't do a damn thing about it, that in Texas, that as long as a kid got one meal a day, had one suit of clothes, and they didn't beat him to death, that they wouldn't touch them. I don't want to believe this but it seems to be true so far. I did see an article in the paper about a man going to jail near here for putting a bruise on his son's hand with a belt, when the kid put his hand over his butt to protect it.

Well, they told me they would check it out, but I feel so helpless still. I came home, called my son to explain about his birthday and why I left. Nathan understood. He's a great kid, and I felt like shit for leaving his party.  I tried to make it up to him, but that is so sad to have his birthday ruined by something like that. I cried for hours and hours. About Nathan. About Andy. I cursed my sister over and over, and cried some more. I really, really hate her.

 Posted 6/12/2002 5:31 PM - 1 view - 22 comments

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{HUGS}

I was saddened by your last blog, but left speechless by this.  bi-polar is no excuse for child abuse.  My heart breaks and bleeds for Andy. 

Posted 6/12/2002 6:07 PM by VelvetGlove - reply

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What part of Texas do you live in? I could ask my husband about this. He's a lawyer for the indigent and is exposed to a lot of CPS cases. Maybe he knows how to get them to take this seriously. I guess there's really no one in the family that could take him. Or is there? They like to place the kids with family members if they can. That's awful, Debi. And even more awful that it's going on in your own family. It's it strange how some people in a family turn out great and others are horrible? Email me if you think Hubbard can help.
Posted 6/12/2002 6:49 PM by just_margie - reply

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What can one say...?

peace

Posted 6/12/2002 7:11 PM by thespis Xanga Premium Member - reply

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{{{hugs}}}
Posted 6/12/2002 8:42 PM by moniet Xanga True Member Xanga Premium Member - reply

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Not true about Texas but you do have to know who to call...
Posted 6/12/2002 10:33 PM by dockoonce - reply

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i hope that things start to get better real soon
Posted 6/12/2002 10:45 PM by anth0nyc Xanga True Member - reply

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{{{{{{Debi}}}}}}

Debi, there's DEFINITELY something that can be done.  It's just a matter of making sure that you ARE talking to the right people.  You're not just hearing this from Andy (which sadly, can sometimes go ignored) but you've seen what's gone on.  Call yourself an eye-witness, whatever.  But don't stop calling... call every day if you have to. 

My prayers continue to go out to Andy, and to you as well. *hugs*

Posted 6/13/2002 12:00 AM by ladydelaluna Xanga Premium Member - reply

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same here my prayers continue to go out to Andy and you and your family. 

Debi, please do not stop with one phone call.  Andy needs you and i believe your niece does too.  Get them out of there.  I wish there was something I can do. 

Hugs to you Debi

Posted 6/13/2002 12:04 AM by tdsdrkeyes - reply

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Debi, I'm praying for Andy and his sister. They should not be in a situation like that. That poor boy doesnt deserve to be beaten like that... nobody deserves it. Good luck, luv! ~Heather

Posted 6/13/2002 12:27 AM by TheatreKitty - reply

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My heart absolutely aches for Andy.
Posted 6/13/2002 12:40 AM by Liz_A - reply

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Jeez, for a state that has Capital Punishment you think they'd be a bit more strict on child protection laws!! Or negligent parent prison!! That just makes me ill... I hate it when kids get hurt!! Damn!!

 
  He is still in my prayers!
Posted 6/13/2002 12:47 AM by fairestc - reply

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my god! that is so rotten.. and pathetic.. how can a mother do this to her own child! I hope the welfare people come around !

*hugs* and prayers for andy!

Posted 6/13/2002 1:48 AM by myself - reply

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that makes me want to cry...that is so horrible.
Posted 6/13/2002 2:31 AM by RiottGyrrrl Xanga Premium Member - reply

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You know my - prayers and {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} are with you.
Posted 6/13/2002 3:55 AM by deejer Xanga Premium Member - reply

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Poor Andy....I wish there were something I could do to help....I will pray for his continued remission and for his redemption frrom this life of hell your sister and her husband put Andy through....No little kid deserves that kind of life.....M
Posted 6/13/2002 4:52 AM by mach2too - reply

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Debi, I agree, call call often, and keep calling- children are our most precious things and they all deserve to be protected, Bless you for stepping up to the plate to protect him.  I'll keep him in my thoughts and prayers. 
Posted 6/13/2002 8:18 AM by RealSmooschick - reply

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(((((Debi))))  Sounds like you have so much to worry about with your family.  You're in my prayers sweety.
Posted 6/13/2002 9:36 AM by Wickgal - reply

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UNBELIEVABLE!!!!
Posted 6/13/2002 11:47 AM by abyss - reply

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Or my lord.  That's not right.  Andy needs to divorce himself from his parents , anythign is better than that.  I'm almost willing to call the authorities on them.  That is unbelievable.  First of all I would like to add , even leaving cigarettes around children and leaving the children unsupervised is not a good idea.  Those people need to be taught their own medicine, you should hire some thugs and catch them and beat them with a wire hanger and told how horrible they are.  And told if they ever do that again, they won't be so lucky.
Posted 6/13/2002 1:02 PM by magealita - reply

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AND NO THAT DOESN"T EXPLAIN IT!!!!! AND THAT DOESN"T EXPLAIN THE BEHAVIOR OF HER HUSBAND EITHER!!!!!!
Posted 6/13/2002 1:03 PM by magealita - reply

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Andy must be the strongest little guy the world's ever seen. I agree, just keep trying. nobody deserves to be treated like that, he's just being a kid, which he can finally do. he will stay in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted 6/13/2002 3:02 PM by soleilshine - reply

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Having been an abused child myself, and well familiar with hangers, balloon sticks, clothesline cord, riding crops, quirts, and even the occasional butcher knife, basically anything she could get her hands on - I want to run back there and grab Andy and his sister and take them out of that situation.  I had an advantage in that I started swimming and lifting weights in high school and started fighting back - my Mom would come at me, I would lean back and use my legs to shoot her clear across the room.  The tradition has stopped here, and it infuriates me that people continue to beat children to assuage their own inadequacies.  Please keep calling and exploring whatever avenues are presented to you Debi!  Andy's life may depend on it!  Sending you lots of hugs and encouragement~~~~~~~

 

 

Posted 6/14/2002 4:44 PM by BrokenMama - reply


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