Hey Flibbertygibit!  I guess the prob with being vindictive in my case is one of the main things that I'm hating about this person is how vindictive she is, so I can't very well complain about how vindictive somebody is and then be vindictive myself....well...I COULD, but that would just be stoopit!  But I know you're being flip.  Heh.

Tadleta - yes, I do need to purge it.  I've tried to swallow it.  Make it calm. Make it go away.  I've done a lot to feel better, but I still have this urge to write all that happened down to show everybody the story.  I'm not completely blameless, I did a few things that others might think were not so nice, but nothing I'm ashamed of and I would tell that part too.  I just feel so bottled up over the whole thing - partly too because this person presents themselves as the "pillar of the community" type, but I know better.  Ya know?

Thanks all!

Peace (as best as you can find it!)