Wednesday, February 13, 2008

• Decisions, decisions...

    

  

  So let me sum up the two months leading into us standing before a Judge and stating our marriage vows:

  * Four days after I met +1 (that's my FI), I decided I would quit my job.  Since my company's sick and personal days are "use it or lose it", I decided to "use" them and then quit.  A mere 9 days after I met Tuan, I gave my two weeks' notice, but my company said to just leave ASAP and send everything overnight delivery to them.

  * About twenty days after we met, he moved in with me.  Why pay rent to live in your family's house when you can live with me for free?!  Two days after that, we opened joint checking accounts and closed our personal accounts.  NO SECRETS HERE.  Everything is mutual property.  I immediately started my own private consulting business and he continued working. 

  * I knew he had a lot of student loans and credit card debt coming into the whole thing, but I was confident I could help him get his life (and CREDIT!) back in order.  Then came the WHAMMY: HIS PARENTS!!  Needless to say, in the first two months of being together, +1 and I paid over $10,000 in debt (not even OUR OWN debt) and we bought his parents a used Toyota Camary. 

  Question: If you were me, would you have left him?  Well, clearly, I didn't.  That makes me either stupid, or I know something you don't know!!!!

  * So then it comes time to meet his parents.  OMG!  All I can tell you is that I came into it like this:

  

  But after a SILENT dinner, his mother asked me this: ARE YOU A VIRGIN?

  

  I looked to +1 for answers.  After some mild choking, he replies (in Vietnamese), "Of course we are!"  His mother burst into tears and screamed he was a liar.  I should've known I'd never have a relationship with his family. 

  

  * So on the eve of my Twin's wedding (this is her above), +1 and I had started to talk more and more about what we wanted for our future together.  We calmly discussed everything we could think of under the moon.  He then laughs a bit and says, "You're going to be my wife, right?"  I laughed and kissed him.  What a nut job!  After my Twin's wedding, we came home and further discussed this wedding of ours and hey, why not just do it?  A fellow Xangan had eloped one morning because he figured, "Why wait when you know you love the person?" and they are now back tracking and doing the whole wedding ring shopping and planning like we are now! 

  * The next day, we headed out to get our Marriage License.  He was so excited and distracted at the same time.  We had no rings, no witnesses, no money, no... NOTHING!  But I can't tell you how happy I was.  We were MARRIED!

   

  Next time: To tell your family... or not?

   

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