I'm experiencing something new to me in the various types of break-ups: the guy who dumps you and then calls you EVERY SINGLE DAY. And when I don't answer because I'm in a movie or at dinner with friends, he texts me. Tonight, the 2nd night in a row that I did not answer (heaven forbid...), he texts me: "so we're never speaking again?"
Now, I texted him last night when I got home to apologize for not having time to talk. And I texted him this morning twice in response to various messages that he sent me. It's not like I'm ignoring him. But apparently, I don't answer my phone two nights in a row, and he thinks we're never going to speak again?
I guess I might want to include the little fact that we spent a post-breakup romantic weekend together in Boston that included a concert at Symphony Hall and a whale watching cruise, not to mention staying in the same bed in a hotel together. We basically acted as if we were still together for the weekend, so I can see where lines might get a little blurred and definitions might become a little muddled. But I considered it one last hurrah. I thought that afterwards we would transition to being friends. Instead, half an hour after he dropped me off at my apartment post-Boston, he texted me "i miss u" (God, I hate text message grammar...). And he's called me every night since. And texted me plenty. And emailed me in the middle of the day to say he was bored at work. These are things he did when we were at the peak of our relationship - sweet little things that made me go "awww... he's thinking about me." But now I'm just confused. Didn't
he dump
me? Why is
he being the clingy one post-breakup? Isn't the one who got dumped supposed to be doing the clinging? And here I am, thinking "oh my God, just because I don't talk to you for two nights does not mean that I'm ignoring you!" Isn't he supposed to be the one that's all "stop calling me! We're broken up!"?
Boys, a little insight here?
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Yeah, just stop talking to him as it seems to be what he's searching for.
"God, I hate text message grammar..."
hahah! ditto!
He is as confused as you are.
I say that because you used the word "romantic" to describe your post-breakup weekend together. Perhaps neither of you is ready to move on, and he has realized that he has made a dumb mistake, but is not man enough to own up to it. So he text messaged you, admitting to that fact in the best way he knows how.
But what do I know... I am confused most of the time myself.
I AM STILL AT WORK
flaky NYer right here
@Natalia - That's right, always working, so in your own world... how very NY of you. You missed a great film btw. Paul Newman was HOTT when he was younger.