Questions of the Week

Monday, March 10, 2008

Questions of the Week
My advice column is still going strong, so I decided to start a weekly column. Written every Monday, I answer a couple of questions that were sent to me. Here we go...
I know he likes me, and he knows I like him. But he wants us to kiss first before he asks me out, which is understandable.. I'd rather it be less awkward when we're going out. But we're both really shy around eachother! It's craaazyy. Now he's becoming less shy, and for some reason I'm becoming MORE shy! And it's been a while since I've liked someone this much.. I got out of a long-term relationship gone wrong last month.. But anyways, what are some easy ways to show him how much I like him? And flirt?
Here's one good thing I'm going to point out - you both know how each other feel and are wanting a relationship. The problem is making that move for your first kiss, but what I want you to know is that you don't have to feel pressured to do that just so he'll date you, because that's not right. However, if you're okay with that, I think it would be a good idea to try to step it up, such as touching him more often (on the shoulder, hugging him, etc.) while talking to him. Or while sitting together, cuddle up to him and little things like that. They go a very long way.
haha, okay. this isn't really anything major, but i'll see what your opinion is on this.

so i like this guy Blake. and i'm 95% sure he likes me too. we've known each other for almost our whole lives, and it seems like we've developed feelings for each other. idk, i just know there's something there.

here's the thing. normally, when school's on and stuff, i see this kid 4ish times a week at work. he lives nearby, but he goes to a different school for a program. when we're in person, we're constantly flirting and stuff. but the problem is this. this kid has like, NO contact with people from home. no myspace, facebook, msn, cellphone, nothing. he has a home phone number (but his parents are divorced, so he's only at that house a couple days a week and they're not set days) and an email he admittedly never checks.

i want to start something and hang out by ourselves away from our coworkers. not to mention i haven't talked to him all break and i miss him! but i've only called Blake's house once or twice just to cover shifts or whatever so calling him out of the blue would be weird, and it would be awkward if he wasn't even at that house that day. so that leaves email. now, would it be strange to just email him out of the blue? he's never emailed me ANYTHING, and he doesn't even check the email normally.

i really really want to get in touch with him sometime before the end of break. what on earth do you suggest?
Usually, if you think something is going on - it is. I think you should try to stay in touch with him, it may end up leading to something. The only thing about email, is that he doesn't check it often. You may send him something today, and won't get a reply for a month or two. So I'm not sure if that's the best way to go about it, maybe you should try calling him. It won't be weird, if you don't make it weird. I recommend coming up with somethings that you want to say to him, but do NOT memorize it. Believe me, if you memorize what you're going to say - he'll notice. It will sound rehearsed. You can just write down some key things you can talk about.

If the phone conversation begins to go into silent mode, and you have nothing else to say - end the conversation! This is very important. So many girls or even guys, talk to their crushes on the phone and let the silence continue until it is so awkward that you can barely talk to them in person, etc. So it's just as easy as saying, "Hey, I'm going to let you go and I'm glad I got to talk to you..." and leave it at that. It's pretty simple when you think about it. =)