I bought a data recovery program (after trying a couple of free ones
that weren't really user-friendly enough). It's still recovering files
but I think it's going to get them all. It found 12,000+ music files
(some of those were deleted podcasts, sounds, etc.) I've been just
charging my iPod on my work computer (it doesn't have iTunes). I won't
sync any of our iPods again until I know we've got everything, or as
much as we're going to get. I may still use one of those utilities to
move music off the iPod to a computer (I'll probably use one of the
computers at work and just load iTunes on it).
Mack wants a car and is obsessed with the idea, even though she doesn't
have a job and has no way to pay for a car or insurance, or even gas.
Her dad and I told her we would talk about all that with her when she
has a JOB. I'm concerned about Alex and the friends she's hanging out
with. I'm not sure what to do about it, exactly, but I think she's
headed in the wrong direction.
In
other news, I lost a tennis match on Sunday that I should have won and
I'm kind of bummed about it. I was playing someone who beat me in a
tournament a year or so ago, and she beat me so badly and so completely
that I honestly went home and wondered if I should be playing tennis at
all. Sunday's match was much better, 5-7, 7-6, 10-8. But really, I had
the second set in the bag and couldn't close the door. Also, I have a
bastard of a blister on my left foot now.
Comments (5)
You are more techno-savvy than me!
Gator's talking about a car, too. We've had the same discussions.
Glad to hear the recovery program is working
Don't know what to say about your kids, but go with your gut... maybe if you just talk to Alex and say exactly what you wrote here: that you are concerned about her friends and that she's going in the wrong direction. Saying something is better than just letting it go!
Good luck with the file recovery. I know nothing about any of that. I need more RAM and I'm not even sure how that works.
I agree with yard... talk to her in a non-confrontational way and maybe you'll get through to her soon enough. Hopefully she has a good enough head on her shoulders to stay out of trouble in spite of her friends.
My daughter just started tennis yesterday. She really enjoyed it, said it was a lot of fun. I hope she sticks with it.
I definitely remember that feeling-- of course I hate confrontation too, so in typical guy fashion once or twice, I'd hold it in, in, in (hoping it would fix itself or go away) and then explode a bit (my explode is probably milder than you might be picturing there) over reacting somewhat to the whole situation. Luckily there was also a Mom there that could diffuse it and communicate better what was going on.
I do remember having to have "the" talk (per Yarden's comment) once with 1 of my kids and then also with their would be "friend of the opposite sex".
I think the talk went something like-- "in the end you need to make your own decisions and live with them, but you need to know that I (we) truthfully do not approve of this relationship. So if you choose to go forward you need to know you're doing it against our wishes and though I (we) really love you and always will, this is causing us great disappointment..." something like that, if I recall.
The talk really doesn't change anything most of time and in the end our kids all had to learn from their own mistakes for some biggee choice at least once. We just tried to fill them with a sense that we really did continually love them so they knew we'd be there on the other side of the soon to be crash.
I think it is important that they know if we disapprove before irreversable decisions are made and we all have to live with them. If we didn't say anything now, the day always comes later-- "why didn't you say anything?"
It was really stressful for us those years, and we were so thankful that all 3 came through okay and all our relationships in tact.
From what I've been able to follow of you through the years, I've always felt that you were making good parenting choices and have admired your commitment and consistency there. So hang in there!