i just read a blog that irritated me. without rehashing the entire entry, the writer, being a professional himself, felt it seemed "odd" that his other highly intellectual/professional friends would date "real workers", ie, guys of supposedly lower socio-economic status. 

i don't find this situation odd at all - he made it sound as if his friends somehow gave up the exhaustive search for their ideal partner and wound up settling for less. a person of high socio-economic status doesn't necessarily have to date someone of similar calibre. for lack of a better example, the fact that someone's a cashier at safeway may have little to do with his ability to love or care for someone who's, say, a senior vice president of finance at jp morgan. as naïve as my concept may seem, i want to believe that a person’s educational and social background is all but secondary, and has very little bearing on what attracts two people to each other. an even more crude example would be to ask why prince charming decided on cinderella after realizing, financially and socially, she was a far cry from the deity he saw at the night of the ball. perhaps he really did see something beyond the shimmering gown and delicate glass slippers.

i was really taken aback by the writer's level of arrogance and ignorance. in fact, it was insulting to me personally. since when did "power couple" necessarily spell "successful couple?" on the same token, i'd hate to think that my boyfriend simply settled on an administration assistant like myself because there weren't any other high-paying project managers around that he could date.

everyone is entitled to their own expectations, and to many people, the social status of a potential mate is high on the priority list. but dating other people from different backgrounds...shouldn't we simply consider that "broadening one's horizons" or maybe even harsher, just "growing up"?

oh...and i'm sure the writer knows who he is when he reads this, but hey, it's called "freedom of speech." =P

it was a slow start at the olympics, but canada came back stronger than ever...go team canada! we're proud of you all!

yesterday was our mini-show at vancouver pride's picnic in the park. it's the shortest set we've ever played as a band, but performing at this event meant a little more to me than some of our other shows. it was the first time in the four years since i've been out where i finally felt i was contributing something to the gay community in the only way i know how.

i thought this would be the time to bring up the fact that our guitarist eric is the coolest straight chinese guy i know. i knew he was open-minded from the beginning, but i wasn't entirely sure if he would be comfortable auditioning for a performance at a gay event. not only was he eager to accept, he was also curious since he hadn’t attended any pride events before.

this may not sound like a big deal, but while most of my other straight asian friends are aware of me being gay, they simply prefer not to talk about it, much less meet my boyfriend or attend any sort of gay-related event, in part out of respect for my privacy. while that's fine by me, my bandmates have not only done all that, they've always openly accepted me. acceptance may (or perhaps should) not be much to ask for these days, but i’m always very grateful when i'm fortunate enough to come across it, and having my bandmates there at my side to celebrate pride is the best feeling i could ever have.