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Wednesday, July 23, 2008
 

I am a Terrible Person Part XVII

Remember when I was whining about the disguised babysitting? This same nice woman took ALL THREE of my kids last night. True, it was only for one hour, whereas I had her child for five, including lunch. But, nevertheless, she was gracious enough to invite both siblings to stay when my middle child had a play date with her son. The most remarkable aspect of the whole thing: my daughter wanted to stay! My daughter, who is an indepedence/dependence condundrum, and does everything BY SELF!!!!! yet refuses to walk ten feet away from me if she can help it, actually WANTED to stay.

I have a like/don't know/dislike/like-again relationship with this woman. I can't quite figure her out. When I first met her, I really liked her. She's not from here, which is always a huge plus in my book. She seems pretty smart. We have other things in common too, like early-child PDD diagnoses and the gluten-free diet. She keeps her religion to herself, which always makes me much more comfortable. Her son is a sweet kid and likes my kid, so that's a plus. On the other hand: around other women, she's different. She comes across as socially ambitious. Maybe she is, I don't know. She happens to be the person who made the comment about my house sufficing "for now, and later when you need more space you can sell it in a heartbeat!" She has sort of...snubbed me...in the past, in a weird, subtle way, in front of other people. But then, on the other hand, when she dropped her kid off for a play date, she started explaining why he was wearing Croc "knockoffs" instead of "real" Crocs. Like I care!! Like I even know whether my own kids are wearing knockoffs or name-brand ANYTHING, much less Crocs. I can't even keep track of where we got half the stuff around here. When someone says something like that to me, I figure they must care what I think. Or maybe they care about the possibility that I'll tell someone else their kid was wearing knockoff Crocs. Do people do that kind of thing? I don't know. I'm not much of a gossiper by nature. Plus I'm the one always wearing the substandard clothes. I HATE spending money on clothes. Almost as much as I hate spending money on cars. I used to think that's because I have good values, and don't waste money on status items. Then I started thinking, nah, I just don't care to spend money on things that other people care about. I'd rather spend money on myself, going on trips, buying nice things for my home, etcetera. That probably makes me selfish. After all, if I were more altruistic, I'd strive to be easy on the eyes for the benefit of others.

I saw her running today, while I was driving by in the minivan, and she was running FAST. I don't think I could run that fast even if a thousand snapping wolves were on my heels. And I mean, what would be the point? Wolves can outrun humans, after all. I'd have no chance, if one thousand of them were on my heels, snapping, no less.

What will I do if my daughter grows into a lovely young girl who wants to be a cheerleader and wear name-brand clothes and go to a huge football university somewhere? Number one, how can I possibly help her, and number two, how will I have a good relationship with her if she turns out to be my opposite? What if she is disappointed in me, for being absolutely clueless about the difference between name-brand and knockoff Crocs?

In the meantime, thank goodness, it's still summer. Ah, how I love summer. I wish we had year-round summer. I wish my whole life was summer. I wish I didn't have to finish this research assignment I've been dodging for seven months. I've put it off so long I can't possibly charge for it. Now I just have to do it to prove I'm not a complete disappointment as a human being.


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I'd be more likely to be explaining if my kid was wearing real "Crocs.". ."Look, Nana bought shoes for us again. . ."   You know, since you can get cheapies at Walmart for 5 bucks. ;)

This is kinda random, but it's what I thought of when you were mentioning the possibility of your daughter being different from you.  I remember when Anna was really young, thinking, "O.K. if God gave me a girl who's really into stuff, then He's got a real sense of humor."  I am not a stuff girl.  Giving things away makes me happy.  I feel unencumbered (is that a word?) with less stuff.  I am happy on a camping trip, with a few pairs of clean underwear and my favorite chapstick.  I don't even like carrying a purse.  K, I'm sure you get it.  But when anna was about 4, she'd make little piles of things under my mother-in-law's couch.  She had special cabinets in her house, just to store piles of stuff.  She was hoarding things before Kindergarten.  The cool thing is that now she's only 11, and she has an aesthetic sense that I completely admire.  I always have on some level.  But I can admire strengths about her personality type, that I don't share.  She is creative and so artistic. . .So it's turned out pretty cool -- her being totally opposite. . .even if she really likes stuff.  :) 

Posted 7/24/2008 12:52 AM by Anothermadhousewife - reply

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LOL, I enjoyed this post!

I'm also more likely to explain away why the kids have something nice/name brand/whatever: "Yes, found that at Value Village for a buck."

I am not a clothes person at all, and get really uncomfortable around people that are conscious of that sort of thing.
Posted 7/24/2008 2:55 AM by subarcticsuburbia Xanga True Member Xanga Premium Member - reply

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Oh, and P.S.  I like the friend. . .if only b/c she took all three kids for a while.  One can't have too many friends who are willing to do that. :)
Posted 7/24/2008 9:08 AM by Anothermadhousewife - reply

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my oldest daughter is completely & utterly the opposite of me.  we see nothing in the same light and the things that are important to her have no meaning for me.  example: she wanted to buy the dog a $30. Coach dog collar.  she thought nothing of dropping money that took her 3+ hours of work on a collar for the dog because of the name.  me, I go to the dollar store for dog collars. 

suffice it to say, it's a cruel twist of fate designed to mess with the psyche of mothers worldwide that we are given daghters that are polar opposites.

Posted 7/24/2008 11:20 AM by illgrindmyownthankyou - reply

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There's nothing actually wrong with being a cheerleader, wearing brand name clothes, and going to a big university, is there? Wouldn't that just set her up to feel happy and comfortable in podville, where you are so often unhappy and uncomfortable? And it beats the hell out of, say, running away from home, drugs, teenaged prostitution, etc. So why worry?

P.S. My daughter listens to hip hop. Now THAT's scary!
Posted 7/24/2008 1:06 PM by transvestite_rabbit Xanga True Member - reply

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@transvestite_rabbit - 

hahahahaha...yes, it's true, if she's going to end up in Podville, I should probably seek to make her a Tri Delt cheerleader. I was sorta hoping she'd make it out. Maybe live up there in Latte Land with you folks, and listen to hip hop. My daughter is too young to listen to anything other than Curious George. We have yet to see what her music choices might be.
Posted 7/24/2008 5:05 PM by ordinarybutloud - reply

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yeah, I wonder the same thing about if I have a daughter... and if she turns out to be like - well, like what you described. I completely relate. and I shudder to think.
Posted 7/24/2008 11:21 PM by punkyhellokitty - reply


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