Assalamualaikum...
Hmm.. sejuk dan mendung hari ini, gelap dan suram bagai hati.. kita yang merindui, sayang kita sang Iryani!  Naper agaknyer kita dapat C3 untuk BM masa exam SPM yer?  Penat kematu jejari kita taip SMS serata tanahair.. maklum lerr, rindu kalau dipendam jadi pahit bak cuka.. bertukar jadi benci, ataupun hilang peduli.
Bak kata adik angah kita, "Hidup musti tarus!".
Soklan kita pada sesapa yang Melayu yang baca blog nie.. apa beza adat tunang dan sanding antara negeri2 Tanah Melayu? Bagi orang Melaka, semuanyer senang dan tak banyak pantang larang dan istiadat.. tapi malam tadi Azatul kita beritahu, "Baju tunang kena buat dulu!". Pulak doh.. takpe, kita yang tak tahu-menahu nak lerr tahu. Kang takde plak malu
Okay, now to business..
Yesterday I laid out the challenge.. that the feminist movement is a misguided effort. More and more, people cry "Freedom! Liberty! Happiness for all!". All fine and good.. but a word of caution is warranted here. There is such a thing as too much freedom.. it's called anarchy, and I can tell you from personal experience that being in one is NOT fun, nor conducive to a long life.
My argument yesterday that the veil and polygamy are examples of controlling laws designed for the benefit of a society.. obviously in this day and age you can point me to places in the world where these "rights" are abused. But less well known are the places where they work fine.. all you need to do is look at the news and note places that aren't covered. Trust me 
But how does the veil make for a viable society? The law of hijab is a small aspect of the larger law of aurat, which deal with etiquette and generally accepted behaviour of said society. But why do women have to cover their heads and men don't? Notice for one thing that men cover their heads too.. notice the various headgear worn by Muslims in various places. The main difference though is that for women it's compulsory, but optional for men.
Let me be the first to admit that I check out women. Let me also admit that if a particularly fine woman passes by with tight clothes, hair flying and all made up I would lose blood to my brain. And let me puncture that dumb excuse that men give.. we DO get excited. Any word to the contrary is a bald-faced lie.
In cases like those, I usually catch myself not truly treating said woman as a gentleman would. I don't openly drool mind you, but I end up thinking about her as a sex object.. "Damn, what I'd do to jam it up in her and break it off!!" or thoughts to that effect.. 
To me, the veil in particular and aurat in general cuts those thoughts cold, like a slap to the face. Women wearing the veil and proper (as in shapely but not flattering or revealing) clothing makes it easier for me to stop thinking of her as a prospect lay and more of a human being with dignity, personality and smarts. Call my wiring faulty, but for the men who read this, try it! Talk to women with hijab and withoutm paying close attention to your thoughts and subtle actions. You'll see what I'm talking about!
"But that's not fair!", you women would say. "Why can't men stop thinking with their privates?" Evolution, for one. Biological imperatives, for another. But it's a credit that God gives to women, in that your tighter control over your base instincts mean that for men, only the area between the belly button and the knees need to be clothed over.. but we go overboard.
What about polygamy? As I understand the law, polygamy is not a privilage for men to wantonly wield over women.. a marriage contract that truly pleases the Almighty is one where the husband treats the wife/wives EQUAL IN ALL ASPECTS. This means equal spending money, equal quality time, equal treatment in bed, equal EVERYTHING.. tall order indeed!
Polygamy only truly makes sense in an extreme situation where a country goes to war, or is overpopulated. Biology has always favored women over men, in that the worldwide average is 3 women to 1 man. If monogamy is strictly followed, that would mean a LOT of women standing around uncared for.. a plague of spinsters and the social consequences that entails.
Polygamy is a good way to put these women into meaningful, satisfying relationships. There are controls in place of course, so that us men can't get into orgies and menages or conveniently divorce our wives after the act like so much Kleenex.. but that will have to wait for another day.
Wassalam and have a great day. Lots of love to my sihaya.. and I'll be back next week! | 
