Why is it that women are our their worst enemies? We don't stick together but would rather pick each other apart. Many of you may think this doesn't apply to you and maybe it doesn't. In the workplace I see women who treat each ok when they believe they are on an equal level or that the person can do something to benefit them but all that changes in a competitive environment. They can become vindictive, back stabbing, conniving and just plain mean. Women are at a definite disadvantage when competing against men because as you all know, it is still a man's world. How many of you have had a woman manager/boss that you really thought was excellent? I have to admit that I've had few if any women who were excellent managers. I've had some good ones but I'd rather have a man as a manager. Men as a general rule don't nit-pick, micro-manage and have 10,000 rules for you to follow. They generally just want you to manage your own work, do your job and make him look good. I am sure there are some excellent women leaders out there but they rarely take the opportunity to do the leading. Most of the time it is easier to sit back and take what is dished out to us rather than stand up and state our opinion. Sometimes it is smarter to keep your mouth shut but not always. Perhaps if we learned how to uplift and encourage each other, be tough when needed and most of all to stick together, there would be more women leaders.
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RYC
Yes, we are in WW.. Sunny and I encourage each other and share recipes and tips. It has helped having someone to cry to and rejoice with in the up and down struggle. Feel free to join in with us. There are several more that are also in WW that we share blogging with.
I have always had male bosses so I can't speak for the female side but I have done jobs for my bosses wife and would rather work for him. She is more picky.
I haven't worked much during my married life, but I was always more comfortable with men bosses.
At one time, I worked in the accounting office of a local resort. The head manager of the resort was a woman, and most of the gals hated her---she WAS tough. But, maybe because I didn't NEED my job (I started at a maternity leave fill-in as a favor for a friend, and when Annie didn't want to come back full time, I stayed on part-time), I didn't let her intimidate me, and she was really fairly nice to me. Not gushy sweet by any means, but she never "picked" at me like she did some of the others. The other gals all walked on tenterhooks around her, but I didn't. I treated her as an equal---not a boss. Of course, she wasn't my immediate boss.
Among the gals at the front desk there was a fairly good comeraderie. I worked in an office directly off the front desk. They did like to talk about some of the gals in other departments, but they themselves stuck together pretty well, and were all good friends. Since I worked alone, along with my male boss (who was about 10 yrs. younger than I was, and a sweetheart), I got along with everyone. I wasn't lumped with any group.
I do think things have gotten worse over the years, though---this was back in the early 80's. Women who were bullies or catty in school will usually be that way at work nowadays. And it is so accepted nowadays, too. Sad, isn't it???
women are this way because they are in competition with each other...plain and simple!
hope you are well...
hugs,
sage