I personally think that that is what makes you a woman. You're looking at life with innocence, allowing yourself to actually experience it. People who are so wary and bitter, who are paranoid that something bad is going to happen every time they open their eyes are the ones who are truly *child like.* Children look at things with more wisdom than we give them credit for. They have it right. Adults are the ones who *grow down* out of that wisdom and muddy it up.

Nice to see you back again!

You become a woman when you grow breasts and get your period. Your body is definitely, in a physical sense, woman. It's harder for men because they don't have a period, or this initiation into womanhood. In many cultures they have initiation ceremonies, after you have gone through this you are no longer a girl or a boy, you are a woman or man. Perhaps that's why you are confused because culture has not clearly given you this cut-off transition.

You are asking when will you grow up mentally perhaps?

You will probably never "feel" wise and old and mature. When you hit your 20s I am told you feel the same about most things (your views are already set on life) and it's just your body that grows older.

There does come a time when we need to put childhood things away, especially when they interfere with our lives as adults.

I personally don't have time to play with toys now, nor do I have the imagination I used to as a child where I made up stories and games. I still like the look of some toys (my beanie bears) but I don't play with them. I actually prefer to focus on reality than fiction (I can't read fiction novels, play make-belief games etc) I feel this is a waste of time now. I prefer to read spiritual books (Christian that is).

When we act childish (throw tantrums, cry loudly, hide in our beds etc) to get the attention of a loved one as an adult, this is called 'reverting' in psychological terms. One reason we do this is because of insecurity, we feel by reverting we'll get attention. But there are other ways as adults we can deal with situations.

You are an adult, you are a married woman. You have responsibilities now, more than a child could probably deal with. You just need to ease into your womanhood. Say "I am woman!"

-Heidi

I don't think you need to be stressed to be a woman. I think it's great that you're not stressed. I think I've passed stressed and gone to spactic and terrified of money... but that fear forces me to budget and save. I guess it works out well. It makes me plan. Not everyone needs that sort of order to succeed.

Being a women involves wisdom. I think once you're wise enough to play the game of life without training wheels... you've made that step*