Wednesday, May 07, 2008
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Well.
It looks like all the ducks are now in a row and the future, for as much as it can be, is set.
On a whim, the husband was interviewing for jobs, none of them around here. He got two offers. One of the jobs he really wanted, but they were offering him a ridiculously low salary, especially so for the location. The second job interview and offer came out of nowhere, and it would have meant turning our lives upside down. Discussing it, weighing the options for both of us, consumed our lives. It was really hard to concentrate on anything. Even though I have no intentions on going back to an office job if I don't have to, the idea of having more freelance opportunities through local channels was something we had to consider, too. The deciding factor were some comments made by the man who would have been the boss, insinuating that us coming to visit the town was pointless. The husband would be moving for the job, not the location, the would-be-bossman said. The husband said to me, "That says to me, that not only does he expect me to focus on nothing but my job, it also disrespects you and our family." That was not the type of job situation he wanted to end up in.
He's not going to rule out looking, and we're starting to think that perhaps a new adventure will be in our future. But right now, it's probably more important that we stay here. There are people who are depending on us in a way they didn't this time last year.
The past few months have been weird. We couldn't plan anything because we didn't know where we'd be come summer or fall. I'd get depressed when we'd talk about things we'd need to do to get the house ready -- these are things that I have wanted to do for years, but with growing kids, with kids and a husband in college, with me just starting out in a new business venture, little remodeling projects were low priorities.
But the talk about what we would have needed to do spurred something, and we're starting to make some plans. These aren't projects that will happen overnight, but they will happen now.
Mostly I'm happy things are staying the same, but there's a part of me that's a little sad. Everybody around me is going through some sort of change. Granted, not all the changes involve happy circumstances for my friends and family, but they are turning into positive things and everyone seems excited by the changes happening. Me? I just plod along, everybody's anchor. I was a little excited for visiting a new town, in a new state, looking for a new house. A new kitchen floor or a new roof aren't quite the same, but at least I don't have to pack up the frog room.
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Comments (5)
When the changes come you will be ready and they will come.
How exciting for you to be possably starting life brand new in another place & to have a cholice in it.
Have a great rest of the week.
Your husband is sensitive. I don't mean that in a sentimental way, either. So many men would have ignored the would-be boss's comments and visited anyway and then discovered what your husband figured out. My husband once lost a job offer because he was checking out the town and housing before he was actually offered the job. They just assumed it was because he was sure he had the job rather than doing it so he could tell me about what a possible move would mean. Same attitude of blindness to family concerns.
Frog room???
I didn't realize you were looking at different jobs and moving! Maybe you are still there to meet me at Schlow sometime this summer. Yes, it's a lame reason, but, you never know.
i just read an article about how san antonio is one of the top 10 cities that has recession-proofed itself. jobs a'plenty (not so subtle pitch for texas).
i know how you feel. looking out and seeing all the fun while you are anchored. maybe it's time to make some plans for some fun of your own now that you know things are settled.
Wow, that would have been big. I'm glad your husband could see the writing on the wall. But I know what you mean about how you're feeling. It's hard to feel like you're missing out when others are enjoying successful change. I think the changes will come for you when it's time, and maybe now just isn't time yet.