This is a generalization, and can also occasionally be applied to females, but in my experience it's been pretty consistent. One hugely pent up pet peeve of mine about
SOME males - their "ability" or tendency to sum up everything into one conclusive, conversation-murdering sentence.
For example:
Male - "How have you been?"
Myself - "Yeah, I'm sort of bummed out about losing my job. I was really enjoying it there and I felt like I could've moved ahead but it sort of got cut short. I'm still thinking about what to do, I guess."
Male - "Well.... that's the way life is."
<complete silence>
"George is terminally ill. I can't believe this is happening."
"Don't worry about it. It's fine."
<dirty look>
"So I'm flying out tomorrow to Argentina to teach the local village children and I've never been there before and I have so many expectations. I hope that this will really be fruitful. Please pray for me!"
"You'll be fine."
<backhand slap>
Ok like seriously... these were pretty close to REAL conversations I've had with real live hairy chested fellers. It comes in serious times as well as just regular conversation. I hate it. I think it just shows an inability to have conversation or deal with women's emotions at all. In one way it's "using reason." Yes, sometimes we should not worry... Like the words itself are externally FINE, but really inappropriate, often. In my opinion it's the completely wrong alpha-male
problem-solving oriented mentality in a time where people just need to talk. Fiddlesticks.
No, but seriously, if you really don't know what to say and are accustomed to trying to FIX everything for other people, just ask a freaking question. Anything is better than "yeah, that's life."
Disclaimer: This doesn't really apply to Ken, for he is very patient and wise. Also, thank you to every guy that is not like that, and I know many of you exist. Keep it up and avoid the easy way out when talking to girls. Furthermore I know 99% of the comments I recieve will consist of "don't worry about it."
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how about
"my dad has prostate cancer...yea"
"oh really? he'll be fine......(walks away)"
wow. i totally agree with your post... how are you doing?
oh I've definitely been there...and then they wonder why I don't want to share the personal stuff with them anymore...
"I understand" & "I'll remember you in my prayers" said sincerely are wonderful : )
oh and yes, I'll pray for you, Joyce : )
haha i thought of jin jung too.
but anyways, how dare women engage men in significant conversation, consider it a polite "brushoff" instead of "why are you talking to me, go back to the kitchen".
such truth you speak. altho i actually know some females who are like that, too. makes me wonder about them.
conversation-murdering sentence. haha
Them - "Hey did you like 'Snow Falling on Cedars'?"
Me - "Yeah I did. How are you doing?"
Them - "Ok fine. Got to go."
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that's why people dont talk to me about such matters