Monday, April 21, 2008

• I know it has been a while - long posting (sorry)

  I have been pretty overwhelmed here in the beautiful state of CO. School is truly dominating my life. I thought I was done with one class and all it's projects only to be given another major project for this same class. Talk about stressful.

  We have been dealing a lot with DJ these past few weeks. I really want to pull my hair out because of all the mess that the school is creating for us. So last Monday DJ’s Para was basically trying to get DJ organized at the end of the day. She wanted to change some stuff in his planner and it was making DJ upset because it was going to make him miss the bus. He kept trying to tell her she was making him upset but she was not listening. So he was already at his breaking point when another one of the teachers (who we have MAJOR issues with anyway) came up to him and said that she was going to right him up for “scaring” a little girl that we seem to have big issues. (This little girl was walking and turned around and DJ was there and he said Boo…this scared her) So this teacher basically upset him even more!!! Well he got even madder and walked out to the hallway and when he did he pushed open the door hard. It caused no one any harm and caused no damage either. So the Para took a hold of DJ’s arm and said that he had to go to the counselor’s office. By this point he was (in his own words) on a scale of 1 – 10 a 42~! So as he was sitting in his counselors office he was saying that he hated the school, that he wasn’t listening, started banging his head on the wall, and was covering his ears. He was very upset. His whole structure of his after school routine was ruined. So they held him past the time for his bus and because they didn’t have a place to put him they put him in detention. Basically, they said they didn’t want to put him on the bus because he was upset. But if they hadn’t gotten him upset by messing with his afterschool routine then there would not have been a problem.

  Then on Thursday DJ was being a boy – ie he and his 2 friends (and I do stress that number because that is all that he has) were playing around in the hallway. DJ and one of his friends were pushing each other into the lockers; they were laughing and cutting up. Then one of his friends was bending over and the other friends came up and kneeled down behind him and DJ pushed the boy over the other. It is called table topping. The two friends laughed and NO ONE was hurt. They were just playing around. They tried to get the boys to right a statement against DJ and they refused to do so. But DJ got written up and his punishment is in school suspension on none other but the day that he was supposed to go to the field trip! (And before you all ask – the other boys did not get in trouble at all) When I got the phone call I got so mad when I told the dean of students that I know what they were doing – they were working DJ up to the point of taking away the field trip. He told me that they have issues with unstructured time and that a field trip is nothing but unstructured time so they do have a problem with taking DJ. I told him that his Para should go with him them and that I want that to happen but he said that it couldn’t. So basically I got frustrated and said that they had upset me and that I no longer could speak to him, he needed to call my husband.

  So while I was telling my husband what had happened at the school gathered everyone in a room. They had the dean of students, DJ’s counselor at school, his para, his principal, vice principal, the school psychologist, and the team counselor all in this room (can you say ganging up on us). Bill put them in their place and they told him they would call him back. Basically, I know they went back through our IEP and called the school district legal dept. They called us back and they basically said that because we signed the IEP stating that the school could discipline him for inappropriate behavior then they are going to give him the in school suspension and there pretty much isn’t much we can do about it.

   

  So we take DJ to this other program that we want to get him into and he interviews with a teacher. Billy and I go in and talk with the program director and she told us that his current school told them DJ could not attend the program because he HAD to have the para and the program can not accommodate that part of DJ’s IEP. We told the director that the ONLY time that the para is around is to help get DJ organized at the end of the day. We told her about the getting in trouble with the “boo” and then him being a boy and rough housing with his friends getting him suspended. She was stunned. So needless to say we are battling a huge fight right now. And between school and DJ's school...I have no time for anything other than these things.

   

  Ok...but we did go to the fraternity's initiation dinner on Saturday night. Here are some pictures.

   

  

  A group of lovely ladies!

  

  One of my best friends Nicole

  

  My other best friend Kelli

  

  Hubby and I before the dinner started.

  

  My $1.99 ebay dress!!!

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