Willingly Leaving Good Sex

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Willingly Leaving Good Sex
Ever been a relationship, one day realize that it's just not meant to be, but you're so unwilling to leave cause the sex is really. just. that. good?

I mean mind-blowing sex. Like crazy, steamy, sweaty, grunty, animalistic, leave-you-with-bruises-from-her-grabbing/biting/clawing-your-skin-so-hard, make-her-walk-funny-the-next-day, find-any-dark-alley, do-it-in-the-restaurant-bathroom, act-like-irresponsible-teenagers-and-have-pregnancy-scares, can't-even-drive-without-keeping-your-hands-off-each-other, cover-her-mouth-else-someone-calls-the-cops, feel-like-you're-in-a-porn sex.

I dunno about most women, but for guys, this is a really tough thing to do. I guess, if you do realize that you aren't meant for each other, you can hang on for the sex, until something happens that makes you realize that it's just not worth it anymore. But in general, it's pretty tough.

Sex isn't everything. But it counts for a lot in relationships. Top 3 things, if I had to rank. I guess the dream would be to stay "friends" and be FTF, but... ehh... that can be drama too. That never really works out, does it?

Ever held on to a relationship or "put up" with someone just because of the sex?

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can't talk from personal experience. ugh my sex life is shot.
- 7/16/2008 12:31 AM
- petitetokyo (message)
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I was the receiving end (i KNOW he hung on to me for the sex). It hurt to realize it later but eh, the sex was pretty tremendous.
We are now mortal enemies. If I saw him on the streets now, I would cut his throat.
- 7/16/2008 12:33 AM
- La_dolce_vida (message)
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yeah i have a fuck buddy right now ^_^
- 7/16/2008 12:34 AM
- LihKinLi (message)
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i'd have to say that it's happened to me and mister (previous ex).
- 7/16/2008 12:36 AM
- korean_biyatch (message)
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no, the sex has fizzled when the bullshit drama pre-breakup starts up. anyway, i wouldnt sex the ex no matter what. thats old territory and im all about moving forward. too much emotional history there to hang on just for sex, because in the end its never really 'just' sex.
- 7/16/2008 12:38 AM
- Reality_vs_Ideality (message)
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one ex that happened, partially. damn thanks for reminding me!! LOL
- 7/16/2008 12:41 AM
- Ju1cyXCouture (message)
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Hmm... Not really. Once the relationship started dwindling, the sex did too.
- 7/16/2008 1:02 AM
- Steffs_Confessions (message)
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i think it goes hand in hand with a good relationship...
- 7/16/2008 1:04 AM
- akareee (message)
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so if I wanted to break up with a guy - the easiest way would be to start being terrible at sex...
nice.
- 7/16/2008 1:13 AM
- catzonfirefosho (message)
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I don't know. all i know is just that i want "mind-blowing sex. Like crazy, steamy, sweaty, grunty, animalistic, leave-him-with-bruises-from-the-grabbing/biting/clawing-skin-so-hard, make-her-walk-funny-the-next-day, find-any-dark-alley, do-it-in-the-restaurant-bathroom, act-like-irresponsible-teenagers-and-have-pregnancy-scares, can't-even-drive-without-keeping-your-hands-off-each-other, cover-the-mouth-else-someone-calls-the-cops, feel-like-you're-in-a-porn sex" bad.
- 7/16/2008 1:34 AM
- lala_land86 (message)
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I love your description of sex haha
- 7/16/2008 1:36 AM
- nikki__tran (message)
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tough decision huh. well, i dont believe in staying for the sex. i'm pretty sure i can find just as good, if not better elsewhere. if all else fail, maybe an arrangement can be worked out to benefit both parties.
- 7/16/2008 2:21 AM
- maebemaebenot (message)
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never happened, hope it never will.
- 7/16/2008 2:36 AM
- gapeach (message)
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the sex with my ex was better when we knew it was ending.. and even better afterwards.. hahaha.

it was always better when we were on a break.. when I wasn't his gf.
- 7/16/2008 6:49 AM
- vysion (message)
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somewhat
- 7/16/2008 8:48 AM
- elusiivelove (message)
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yes. unfortunately. he was too emotionally clingy.
- 7/16/2008 9:37 AM
- winspark (message)
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yes and it was a tragedy he was so freaking stupid.
- 7/16/2008 10:07 AM
- hanyoung (message)
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Yes and no, it was accompanied by my hoping that my boyfriend (5 years older than me) would grow up. I guess it wasn't amazing sex, but it was better than nothing.

Nothing as good as what I've got now ;)
- 7/16/2008 11:31 AM
- haloed (message)
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nope, i never crave for sex as much as i do now... but damnit, i'm single.. sigh
- 7/16/2008 12:28 PM
- sillygirl1021 (message)
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good sex is hard to come by so no, i never really put up with anyone's antics for good sex. have you ever dumped anyone for really bad sex?
- 7/16/2008 12:50 PM
- babydot74 (message)
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I've gotten into a relationship for that reason (even though I knew it wouldn't work out, nor did I like him much), but was never incapable of leaving for that reason since the attraction usually dwindles as the relationship dwindles.
- 7/16/2008 1:23 PM
- kamilotte (message)
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that's never held me back from breaking up with someone but i do think to myself, "damn, will i ever be in a relationship where the sex is THIS good again?"
- 7/16/2008 2:20 PM
- kbabe44 (message)
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yeah. 8 months. not good in retrospect
- 7/16/2008 2:36 PM
- hahaheidi (message)
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No, it's not worth the drama.
- 7/16/2008 2:57 PM
- iiPIESii (message)
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yeah, and it surprisingly ended okay.
- 7/16/2008 3:45 PM
- spunkyquirk (message)
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